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To panic or not to panic?

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BitOfAMuddle · 11/05/2011 15:08

Afternoon all
This is a mish-mash of several topics currently under discussion at the moment so my apologies if this bores the pants of you! And I'm not really sure what I'm after - probably just a safe sounding board to try and help unbefuddle my thoughts... Oh yeah, and I've name-changed too, to be extra-furtive Smile
My DH and I have not exactly been having problems, but our sex life has been almost entirely dead since before our DD was born. It's a topic that rears its head (so to speak) fairly regularly and boils down to me (he'd agree with me) wanting to try and recusitate (sp?) it and not feeling like we're getting anywhere fast. There's other stuff going on - general feeling of being lost and without focus since birth of DD (though I love her to death but I don't feel like I know myself any more, don't know what I want, yada yada yada yada, feeling trapped - same old stuff, I think, with a shot of PND thrown in for good measure).
So, had what turned out to be a big night out with some friends while DH stayed at home with DD. I ended up chatting for aaaages to some random bloke and almost snogged him but made a very hasty exit before I did the deed. I feel totally split - part of me hopes he'll track me down (attention and change of scenery was very very welcome) while the other knows for a fact I did the right thing by walking away when I did.

I guess I'm hoping that some of you can tell me that this kind of thing happens and not to fret too much about it, but that I need to look at why I allowed the situation to happen in the first place...? Or maybe I need a right royal kick up the jacksie. In which case kick away....

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oldenoughtowearpurple · 11/05/2011 15:17

Sorry, i'm a bit confused. Do you mean DH isn't interested in sex since before DD was born? Or you?

Sounds like you are missing adult attention. Sort it with DH, do NOT NOT NOT have an affair of any sort. Kick.

BitOfAMuddle · 11/05/2011 15:23

Kick duly accepted. And it's DH who isn't interested in sex - although he tells me all the time how much he fancies me etc it doesn't seem to translate into action. I would run for the hills if this guy did track me down - I KNOW I wouldn't do anything and might add that my sharp exit was made when I was many many beers for the worse and not as quick thinking as I would otherwise be. I have been trying to sort things out with DH for what seems like years.

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