I feel like i'm a lost cause

[bigheartedwoman]

Now, i'm not a namechanger, but i am a lurker, and i do post sometimes!
I know the rules regarding hugs, and all that jazz!
Right, been with himself for 10 years now, he's 29 years older than me, i'm 43, he's 72, and no, its not the age, its the fucking attitude.
I'm a single parent, with a 15 year old, and he is just a credit, kind, considerate, strong and healthy, and loves Partner.
I'm very independant, and i have raised my son to be the same.
Like Anyfucker, he gets £10 pocket money weekly.
Right, heres the crack. I lost it completely, his daughter (who is lovely) came around, and mentioned that his weight would be commented on, and his ex wife would be giving off about it.
Her words were "mum will be giving off about that"
Now, after expaining how i felt about this, he told me that i had nothing to be worried about.
That was two days ago.
I havent rung him, nor has he rung me.
I know i've issues, and i'm taking steps to redress this.
He doesn't DO arguements, but i would rather talk.
I think this is the end. (sad)

  Thanks ladies and gents for listening xx
       Sorry for yapping!

I feel duty bound to reply to this thread, due to the random name-check

I do quite well on my tenner a week

however, love, I can't follow your post

whose weight is going to be commented on ? and why ?

and why have you fallen out with your partner ?

why does a small disagreement (was it small ? I dunno) mean "the end"

sorry

I am also very confused...

I'm really sorry for being dense/confused but what are you asking here? Are you angry that your bf's daughter commented on your ds' weight, or was it your partners weight? And were you angry with him that she felt able to comment on her mothers attitude to weight?

I take it you don't live together?

phew, not just me then

I need to start smoking, get myself more in the zone man, can't seem to follow much on here with my logic

AnyFucker You must be super cool, being name-dropped..

I just have a distinctive name

and I give my teenager 10 quid a week...

I would love a tenner a week fancy adopting me??

yes, I will name you Cinders and I will put you to work

Sounds like a good trade to me! Hahaha

I know, i know xx
I'm a great one for being Dramatic! (smile)
And not explaining properly x (sp)
Right, i know that he loves his children, and rightly so! I know that he has a past, and his ex wife and children came second to that, which was a bloody disgrace.
And i've told him that too.
He has a great relationship with his children, but he has put a wee bit of weight around his middle.
I just cant get round "my head" that conversation.
I think its wonderful that they can talk so easy together, and his ex wife can have an opinion.
But i still find it difficult.
Oh and Anyfucker, sorry but i give my son the same!

so, your beef is the ex wife still having such an input and an influence on him, and indirectly, you

I see (I think)

Yep. got in it one.
I know i shouldn't but i i do.
My ex fucked off when my son was 3 months old,we met at uni, married, got the t-shirt, he was having an affair when i was pregnant, left me for another woman.
Me insecure? never! x
I know i've got is hoos, but i hate this
And i'm addressing it, and i love that they can talk so freely.

Ah, but the way I read this, it's his dd saying that her mum will love mouthing off about him letting himself go to rack and ruin and gleeful that she is his ex now, you know in a bitter way? So, the dd could be slagging off her mother in a ' god, mum still hates you so much she never misses a chance to remark on your appearance' sort of way?

I think a 72 year old is entitled to put a bit of weight on.

Depending on how long he was married to his ex wife, which I guess is a fairly long time, I suppose she still feels entitled to have an opinion. I am not saying she does, but with a lot of past history behind them, it is bound to happen.

Thanks ladies. xx
fuckit anyway, hugs x