is this a type of domestic abuse or am i over reacting

[isthisde]

i'm getting sick of dhs shouting for one

but there another thing he does, if im snoring or tossing and turning in my sleep, he deleberatly wakes me up

last night at 4.20am i must have been tossing and turning iin my sleep

he started doing this tossing and turning impression of me which basically involves him, effectively jumping up an down in the bed sighing, as if to say this is what your doing.

he is definatley doing it on purpose

this is not the first time he has done this

doesnt happend all the time but has happened at least 8 times.

its as if hes so pissed off he can't sleep he has to wake me up.
there nowhere else to sleep

then i end up awake for 2 hours

and today im knackered and fed up

i told him this if he does this once more hes in big trouble, que the predictable shouting at me in front of our dc

he also shouts alot and has even shouted really loudly right in our dcs faces, which i have spoken to him about and he has calmed that down a bit.

The shouting is not good he is a nobend for shouting at you. He also should not be shouting at the dc.

I do wake dp up though if he is keeping me awake at night by snoring or thrashing about,I'm not nasty I just tell him to turn on his side or to go and get in another bed/sofa.

But as I said he does sound like a bully and needs to know you are not going to take his shit.

hes even shouted at our 3 year old right in his face, when he had a paddy about not wanting to leave legoland

i mean a full grown man screaming in a 3 year olds face nose to nose

ffs
there is no where else to go and sleep otehr than the sofa
all rooms are taken

He sounds incredibly childish - can you tell him to grow up and start behaving like an adult? Waking you up in that way is completely selfish and just crass. Shouting at small children in that shows he has no control - he's the parent yet he acts like a toddler himself. Please talk to him very seriously about his behaviour - it's not what I'd want from a responsible father and partner.

I wouldn't stay with a man who did that.

sorry guys this is a duplicate thread... see here for the one we all replied on earlier!

Yes, it is. Several types, in fact :(

It's not unreasonable to wake an over-active bedmate, but it's passive-aggressive to do it by mimicing them, as you describe. it's all about him making a point, isn't it? He could just gently wake you & get you to turn over.

Shouting in your face is highly aggressive. Does he push you, too? Doing it to a small child is unacceptable; it will confuse & terrify the child.

I wonder if your sleep's disturbed by your feelings of insecurity in your relationship?