Sometimes, I really hate being in love

[Threaders]

I've had such a shit week.

Im so in love with this woman. She makes me feel like nobody ever has before. We fit. We are perfect for each other. It genuinely feels like we were made for each other. She used to tell me exactly the same. This week, I'm starting to realise that's just not the case.

Don't know why I'm posting. Just needed to put the words down.

Bollocks.

Think you need to talk to her? Maybe you are misreading the signs, or maybe not but knowing will be better than not knowing?
I'm the last person to offer advice, my lovelife is a disaster at the moment but if I bump this up somebody may be able to offer some good advice for you :)

I think you need to elaborate a bit threaders.

Well, that's a shame and it's always a bit tiresome when that happens, but that's life basically. Had you known her long? Or is this just a case of the initial thrill wearing off after a month or so when you start to see what each other is really like?

Known her for years, loved her the first time I met her. But we've only really been together for a year. It's a complicated history.

I just hate not knowing where I stand. I'd prefer the bad news than no news at all. Shite shite shite. Sorry for rambling, it just helps to write these things down sometimes.

Ask her. Sit her down and ask her. The truth is always better to hear than that terrifying feeling of not knowing what's happening. Maybe you can sort it, maybe not but you can't continue like this. When we have feelings that something's not right, it normally isn't.
Yes you may have a complicated history but a year is still a long time, its not a new relationship so find out what the problem is and see if it can be fixed. Be brave, whatever happens it will be okay, you'll be okay.

What has happened this week, Threaders, to make you think she's not as into you as you are into her?

Yes, do talk to her. If she is a nice person she wil be honest with you; if she wants some space, give her some space. If she doesn't feel that she loves you in the way you love her, and wants out of the relatiosnhip, let her go: it will hurt, but the pain is survivable and doesn't last forever.