DP and I have been having problems for a loooong time. We've been going to counseling after I told him that I think we should split up. The biggest problem is that he seems to be completely incapable of talking about our problems. I texted him the other day about something which had hurt my feelings. (Thought texting might be a non-threatening way to communicate and because he has Dyslexia might be easier) He didn't respond and when I brought it up he said 'what do you want me to say'.
I broke down today and said that I feel like I am going crazy because I can't raise issues and when I do he seems to pretty much ignore them. Case and point he got defensive, said I was making him out to be horrible and then went on the computer and said he needed to 'chill out'.
It's like being in the twilight zone and I'm starting to think that breaking up is the only option to regain my sanity. I swear I think I'm developing anxiety as a result too. Constantly have knots in my stomach...
Problem is if we can't talk about how problems how will we every be able to sort out a separation. I have tremendous fear of being being the parent who 'left' so I'm really reluctant to be the one to physically leave, but am starting to think it might be inevitable. We have two DD (5 and 3) and co-own a house together. I'm starting to fear the worst and it's leaving me feeling paralysed. Like I might have to get a lawyer or someone else to professionally mediate as we can't seem to discuss much rationally. Feel full of dread.
I've posted before. Sorry that I haven't put in the full backstory but I feel so sick of myself and this reality that I can't bear describing it all.
no violence but this emotional stonewalling is so difficult. We are a great team, we manage projects together really well but as a couple it seems like a total mismatch.