what leads men to cheat ?

[edwardsbella]

opportunity,loveless marriage ,sexless marriage?
or are they just programmed to be unfaithfull ?

Delusion. Remember, the person they have been with for ages knows what they are really like, as opposed to how they would like to be perceived. They can tell the affair partner whatever they like and be believed (like my H and how he was such a new man / domestic god - in reality, the man wouldn't have correctly identified the dishwasher or washing machine back then if I'd shoved him in it and turned on the cycle, all he did was cook once a week and make so much mess it would take a day to scrape it off the walls and floors. OW seemed to be under the impression he was the second coming of Jamie Oliver, ha ha).

bbird hit the nail on the head with 'opportunity. I would have said 9 out of 10 would be nearer the mark though.

There are a small number of men who don't cheat because they love their wives and would be devestated if she found out or left him.
There are a small number of men who don't cheat because they fear their wives finding out and leaving them.
Then there are the other men who are so ugly that no one would want to cheat with them, but this is no guarantee as there are also ugly women out there . . .

At least, I hope my three non-cheater thoughts are right because the truth of the matter is that I have never met a man who wouldn't cheat, given the opportunity.

'2. Wife changing after having kids - why do so many women become so tedious after they have become mums? They change.'

No shit. What do you expect them to do, leave the child to its own devices? Maybe they become 'tedious' because some twat excuses for men think the only contribution they should have to make towards their very own child is their spunk.

Why do people cheat? With the exception of a slim minority, the answer is simple: immaturity.

I agree with Spring, too, a lot of people have some very unrealistic and rather adolescent ideas about how long-term relationships are supposed to work.

Just had to comment on this one. Where I live for example there is one man who has had more traffic than the M25 on a bank holiday and it always amazes me why blokes like tbis get engaged and them move in with someone when they have no intention of being faithful. I think alot of it is because as they get older they like to feel they still can be attractive to the opposite sex and the thrill of the chase and all that. I dont think all men are the same .

Because poor diddums can't face the fact that after the kids arrive, his relationship changes and the poor little bloke is jealous.So he finds some other woman with the morals of an alleycat who believes that he IS Mr wonderful, Mr generous, Mr romantic and Mr perfect and who is prepared to massage his ego until he gets bored with her and moves on to the next one

expatinscotland - pls dont shoot the messenger.