Can anyone help?

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My daughter has been living with my ex husband since October last year.

He currently allows me to have her two weekends out of 4 and Wednesday overnight. I have begged him to let me see her more. He works shifts and when he works nights his girlfriend looks after our daughter. I am desperate to see more of her. He refuses to reply and won't agree to anything.

Am desperate. Guessing I just need to put up or shut up but it is so difficult

Very painful for you OP (hu)

HOw did he get custody? HOw old is she?

What does your daughter want to do?

Have you tried going the legal route, why is she with him and not you? How old is your daughter?

A midweek overnight and every other weekend is often regarded as reasonable contact for the NRP by the courts. Has your DD lived with him since your relationship with him ended? If not, what was the reason for the change?

Court order states she lives with me. She's lived with me and seen her Dad on a regular basis. She fell out with me over homework and moved to her Dad's. I expected her back but she's been there since Oct

OK so she is in her teens? This is an age where the court will take her views into account ie unless you can show evidence that living with her father is harmful to her (eg he beats her, or is a criminal with lots of gangster mates round the house, or indeed that he or his DP are heavy drug users), the court will not insist that she lives with you if she wants to live with her father. Particularly as you are having regular contact with her.

I'm sorry, this must be agonizing for you. It may be worth trying mediation or family counselling of some point - you could consult a solicitor as the court order that DD lives with you is, after all, in breach at present. But try to stay as calm as possible, especially when you are actually seing your DD, as if all you do is beg her to come home/spend more time with you or get angry with her, then she is going to be even more reluctant to return.

how ols is she??

if she is teens then she votes with her feet so to speak.....is she happy??