A very dear friend of mine has been single for a long time and is really throwing herself headfirst into finding a mate. She is attractive, kind, great fun to be with and just an all-round good person who I like very much.
Her usual MO is to get really drunk and sleep with a guy she meets at the pub/a social gathering. After this she usually has one date with the guy and then never hears back from him.
I think the problem might be that she acts utterly besotted from the get go (think blushing, hair twirling, giggling, eyelash batting etc)- it's very full on and, if I'm brutally honest, a bit scary.
I've just had the following email from her after two recent encounters and I feel so bad for her:
"X and I met some guys in the pub and yeah... I went on a date with one last night which I thought was going OK until I asked if he wanted another and he said 'just a half'... he obviously he was in a rush to get the hell out of there!
Shame, he was nice! And lives closer than X. Who, incidentally has not called me at all.
I'm rubbish at this!"
Do I tell her why I believe she is rubbish (and how the hell would I do that without devastating her?) or do I just butt out? Bear in mind that during the ten years I have known her I have seen the same thing happen again ... and again ... and again.