Friend's boyfriend & Facebook

[DarkenedSky]

A few weeks ago my friend's boyfriend sent me a friend request on Facebook. I accepted, didn't think it was a big deal. My friend however was not at all happy and sent me a message asking me to delete him and said she'd gone ape at him for adding her friends to his facebook. I was a bit confused about it all but respected her wishes and deleted him off mine. However, the day after, he sent me another friend request!! I was honest and upfront with her and sent her a message telling her he'd sent me another request but I wouldn't accept as it obviously bothered her.

Anyway she left the country for good today, we had a leaving party for her last week etc and are sad to see her go. She leaves behind this boyfriend and from what I can work out, their relationship is as good as over.

Nothing to do with me but he's today sent me ANOTHER friend request AND a private message asking what uni I'm going to etc.

What's going on? why would you do that on the day your girlfriend leaves the country??

He's looking for the ride?

Blank him, it doesn't matter anyway.

Sisters before misters~!

Is it possible she doesn't want him knowing about her via you?

FB is excellent for stalking seeing what people are up to.

Coming from the viewpoint that Facebook is evil and they'll never make me use it, I don't know much about the etiquette. However it seems to me that someone who keeps sending you friend requests when you have asked them not to is being rather rude and is probably not someone you'd want to be friends with. It would be in the real world so I can't imagine Facebook is all that different.

If you don't want his friend requests, block him. It's very simple, it comes up as an option!

I'm not sure why you haven't already, unless you're enjoying passing on the info about him trying to friend you or have an interest in him yourself.

if you like him, add him

if you dont, dont

he is probably interested in you.

he sounds rude and stupid.

It is likely that he's done this to a bunch of her friends, for the reason KarenWalker has pointed out.

Facebook etiquette is challenging. I would agree with those who've said he's interested in you; that, or he's a remarkably keen facebooker.

In my opinion, we should add people on facebook if it supplements a valid 'real-life' relationship. Unlike other internet communication, facebook is largely about your direct actual network and connecting with people you know.

If he is somebody you have met few times, are not likely to meet again, and are not overly interested in then there would have been no reason to add him.

If this is the case, and he has added you, I'd say you need slightly more grounds to reject his request than you would not to propose your own. Bear in mind that a rejection can be taken personally; although he seems rather brazen he probably still has feelings... If you don't want to have him as a facebook friend, that is a passive statement, which could prove awkward were you to see him again; not in a necessarily overt way, but rather in his feelings about your opinion of him.

I should add that these ideas about facebook are derived from a close-knit university environment (I'm currently and undergrad, hope my presence isn't too unwelcome here...) which is perhaps more inclined towards open networks and extensive social circles than is family life.

He might think that to keep in touch with you keeps him in touch with her, you know him I don't see anything wrong with it to be honest.

Well, the OP's friend doesn't want her to have him as a FB friend, so if that still stands, (unless the OP is interested in him and doesn't mind annoying her friend) she'd be best ignoring his friend requests or blocking him.

If he wants to stalk his ex through her friends' FB pages, then her friends should back her up by not accepting his requests.