My sister has become in the last 7 years.....

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So unfriendly....
She never rings me, she rarely calls my parents.
She is very self opinionated and stubborn. Her 'word' is The Word.
She seems to care about no one except her 2 children. She has had them very late in life.
She rarely comes to see us all. I live in the same town as my parents, and she lives 80 miles away.

I find her quite difficult nowadays.

Being the older sister she has always been the bossy one putting me in my place, but in the last year I have stood up to her and it has caused some Mega fall outs.

We are now back on an even keel, but whenever I text ( and its always me) she never responds straight away. If she does it is a day or so later. She clearly doesnt want to bother with me , (or see/call our parents much) and it is upsetting.
Sad really, cos when our parents die we will only have each other.
Parents are really old now.
Any advice please?

Have you tried going to see her? Talking to her telling her you feel that she has cut you off and you want to be close to her?

Does she have a partner that factors in her life and could it be because of him she has backed off?

Maybe she has problems of her own which she does not wish to bother you with and is dealing with those.

Only a good old chat will help you clear the air and find out why she is behaving differently.

Unfortunately we cannot pick our family members and sometimes we just have to put up with them.

I do wonder sometimes if she has marital problems or something . She is quite secretive and always has been. Maybe her husband hates us all. We all find my mother very difficult,, so maybe that is part of it.