Recommendations for non-shit books and websites that give relationship advice.

[SpringchickenGoldBrass]

By 'non-shit' I mean stuff that is not sexist rubbish written by chancers with zero qualifications. So no John Gray or The Rules. I need to know for a work-related reason, not a personal issue.
Thanks

Do you mean "how to fix a relationship"? I can give you some great ones on how not to do relationships, SGB, but you know those already. There's always the Relate booklets?

Both 'how to fix a relationship' and 'how to find a nice partner' type of things. I'm concerned that someone setting up an advisory service is recommending The Rules to people as it's shit.

someone setting up an advisory service is recommending The Rules
... that is SCARY

Anyone recommending The Rules or that Men are from Mars shit needs exposing as a charlatan SGB, so all power to you.

It's hellishly difficult to find Relationships books that don't parrot the usual sexist nonsense about men needing sex to feel loved and women needing to feel loved to want sex, but two books that are reasonable are:

The Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, because it acknowledges that a harmonious couple relationship doesn't necessarily make for great sex and intimacy.

Getting the Love you Want by Harville Hendrix, deals not only with relationships but what attracts people to a mate in the first place.

I'm afraid I wouldn't go near the Relate publications.

Second Harville Hendrix

The Eden Project; In Search of the Magical Other. (Jungian Psychology) by James Hollis. Heavy going but brilliant!

Well I emalied the person last night and said very nicely that I was concerned at their book recommendations and would they like some better ones - and got a 'wow thanks would you?' reply, so I might be able to steer them in the right direction.
Aislingoria, that sounds interesting but I rather think the originators of this project would faint dead away at the words 'Jungian psychology'.
I will have a lok at the Harville Hendrix - and am going to recommend SHirley Glass and Lundy Bancroft as well. (I am not sure what I personally think about SHirley Glass except that the advice is going to be better than The Rules...).

THE ART OF LOVING erich fromm

Well I have sent a few recommendations, including SHirley Glass and Lundy Bancroft, pointing out in the email that any sort of advice service is going to get a lot of queries from people dealing with infidelity and abuse so it would be as well for them to have read some proper books on the subjects. (worded my email a bit more diplomatically...)