My life is a mess... a great big fat mess

[whatsaname]

Do you know... I've written this message a load of times.

I keep deleting and starting again, deleting and starting again trying to work out the best place to start for any of it to actually make some sense to you guys and it not just be a nonsensical blur of me getting a whole load of stuff off my chest.

but quite frankly I still don't know where to start... so that's it... my life is a mess - there I've said it!

I feel better already!

Ooops You can see I really meant that

whatsaname-talking about it -does it make you feel better? Do a list-good/bad. You have a child, by the way, what's her/his name and age? Some people find it difficult to have kids and you've got one. I bet you're a fantastic mum, and don't say you're not, 'cos you sound the sort of person who sorts out everyone elses problems for them. Well, take the time and look at yourself. Careers can be changed, custody issues will sort themselves out, friends are there to talk to (although choose them carefully) and look at mumsnet. You can always talk, day or night and someone will probably be here. Laughter can turn to tears, but it can always turn back to laughter and you can choose. Hope you'll keep talking, I'll listen. LOL

Whatsaname, re the man:at the end of the day you weren't prepared to be anyone's bit on the side and you stood up and said so.
WELL DONE.
It'll hurt for a bit but then the clouds will part.

The other women meanwhile is stuck with a cheater ( and she doesn 't even know it).
It might feel like an ending but it's really a beginning.
Good luck and let us know how you get on.

Were you married to your daughter's father?

Also , re your friends announcing their marriages. Don't be too envious. Just under half of them are likely to end in divorce; the half which stay together won't necessarily be happy

You have a baby daughter who has always lived with you and never with him? Forget him. YOu don't even need a solicitor. He will NEVER get residence of your dd. I promise. Post here for more advice/help/support. You are really well rid of him. He leaves space in your life for someone who will really love you. Being made redundant is horrible but can open doors you never dreamed existed. It changed my life hugely for the better. What do you dream of doing/being? Now you can do it/be it. Marriage doesn't mean your friends will desert you. Quite the opposite. Having children is a huge bond and when they start to sprog you will be the one with all the answers. Agree that your child is a gift some people would give anything for. Good luck for your future.

Just wanted to say thank you to you wonderful, wonderful people.

Had a lovely weekend with my baby, did lot's of things and am feeling rather good today and much more positive.

So, thanks.

whatsaname, see you are starting to get over him sooner than you thought!
Glad you had such a nice time with your baby over the weekend and hope you have a lovely week.

Did you get the car started?

Yep, my neighbour fixed my car for me, he's a mechanic so I asked him v. nicely, actually he's single... hmmm

I feel much better today, had some nice early nights as well which always help. I'm no good whenI get over tired.

More good news .
I think your comedien nature is standing you in good stead.

You said you were about to lose your job.Anything on the horizon job wise?