I think this is totally out of order, spoilt my day already.

[Mrsbubsdevere]

Sometimes i really really really dislike dh.

This morning I was going to have a lie in due to been up in the night with pains and also dealing with my elderly cat who was sick during the night bless her.

DH was downstairs getting dd1 @ dd2's breakfast and he was looking for something in the cupboard, he couldn't see it at first glance (he doesn't believe in looking behind things) so sent dd2 upstairs to ask me, I told him where I THOUGHT it was, next thing I knew dd1 and dd2 came running upstairs crying, dh has proceeded to empty the cupboard and throw EVERYTHING on the kitchen floor and was shouting and swearing.

ALL because I said the spread was on the bottom shelf and it was on the top shelf, in clear view, I may add.

FFS how many of us know EXACTLY where every tinned item is in our cupboards, so I've ahd to get up, calm the girls down and put everything back whilst he sits on his ring piece and watches football.

I think that;s out of order too on your behalf.

My H (definitely not a DH) is like that too. Its the huffing and puffing and muttering under his breath that REALLY pisses me off.

Sorry he has spoiled your day. I dislike my DH most of the time, so I sympathise.

They all do it!Why can't they just look until they find it like we do?

What an @rse.

There's a phrase for it, you know? Boy looking. As in "oh for goodness's sake I'll find it - you're just boy looking!"

I say to dp Look beyond your nose Sound just like my mother but can't help it.

Definitely out of order. I would get the girls dressed up in waterproofs and wellies, grab a loaf of bread and the three of you go for a lovely girlie brunch somewhere followed by loads of puddle splashing. When I am annoyed about lack of lie ins and DH snoring away, I always have to get out of the house for a while to calm down.

But then...my DH would not have even got as far as the kitchen. The only morning I have ever had a lie in since having the children have been in hospital the morning after having DD2 - but I had given birth at 4am so doesnt really count

I sometimes think my H doesn't have eyes. He is always asking me where things are. Now I just tell him to "use your eyes" = and he gets really pissed off! I refuse to stop what I'm doing to find everything for him - half of the time it is there in front of him.

Have to say that he is now a little bit better at finding things, but often he just gives up.

sometimes its like having an extra child, it really is.

(if you were wondering about the loaf of bread - we go for brunch next to a place with ducks )

I have stood next to dp looking right at the thing he is looking for and he still can't see it

noddyholder are we married to the same man?

one of my bugbears too. Being the only woman in a family of boys and men is hard work! Dh does this and also my 11 year old. They know I find it really irritating especially if I know they haven't looked properly. And I would tell ds to clean up the messs and go to his room if he did what your dh did.

Anyway, if requested to find something obvious, I now make the person who asked wait. If they summon me I do not jump to attention. I summon my powers of procrastination, especially if I am doing something important. They have to wait till its convenient for me. It really irritates them. I am hoping the drip drip effect of this will motivate them to look more throughly first time.

Mrsbubsdevere, you are never going to win this one by fair & rational methods.
Buy yourself some earplugs and lock your bedroom door or push something up against it - then you will get your lie in and your dh will have to behave like a grown up and not like a child having a tantrum.
By not dealing with a really, really basic situation, your H is forcing you to, even though he knows you should be having a rest.
He is not playing fair - so you make up your own rules. Get those ear plugs now!

Sounds like he was pissed off that he had to deal with the children and wanted to watch the football, so he threw the first available tantrum.

Sit him on the naughty step. Or jump up and down on the TV remote.