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Help! - First night nerves

21 replies

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 00:15

I'm a long-time lurker but I've name-changed for this as I'm afraid one or two people may be about to 'out' me.

Just married, suddenly got terrible nerves about tonight. Not a virgin (!) Been with dh (first time I've said that) for years but I've come over shy all of a sudden.

What if it's boring? I've just said I'll stick with him for the duration. What if today really was the best day of my life?

His family is a bit grand and very anti-divorce, in theory at least. I did think about calling it all off but the arrangements were so far forward I didn't feel I could.

Has anyone got encouraging and heart-warming stories to cheer me up while he's in the shower?

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blinks · 30/04/2011 00:20

shag his brother first.

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 00:27

Is that what you did blinks?

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DrMuffy · 30/04/2011 00:31

I think the pressure on the first night automatically makes it not very good! It gets better.

blinks · 30/04/2011 00:33

if in doubt, shag the brother.

LittleEasterHouse · 30/04/2011 00:40

Hi nervous
I'm tempted to say "you have made your bed now lie in it" but that would seem a bit unfeeling.

Have you met his grand family? Do they seem boring? Have the "outlaws" welcomed you and given you any good tips on how to behave at grand family occasions?

How about having a quick glass of brandy to relax you before he comes back?

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 00:44

Have heard some people (well, my Mum) say that no-one gets a shag on their wedding night.

Brother not a v. appetising prospect tbh - already v. pissed. And think might have his eye on my sister.

Wedding video on endless loop in hotel - no getting away from it - help!

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nervousbride · 30/04/2011 00:45

Brandy. Great idea

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blinks · 30/04/2011 00:48

can you blame him? your sister looked hawt.

just watch reruns of trisha

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 01:01

People are always telling me about my sister looking hot Sad I did think I might get a break on my wedding day Sad Sad

The outlaws don't actually talk to me but I do get lots of advice from their staff Smile

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SoloIsApparentlyACougar · 30/04/2011 01:04

Wear your borrowed tiara and high heels...they'll give you the boost you need to be great!

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 01:07

High heels in bed? Is that allowed? (Got to mind my Ps and Qs, the place is crawling with police)

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ifitsnotanarse · 30/04/2011 01:15

Forget the brother. What about the guests? Surely there must be one or two good-looking well-to-do men knocking about the 'afters'.

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 07:26

Most of the guests seem to be over 70, friends of our parents or both. We were just going to have a small family 'do' but it got out of hand...

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AmandaCooper · 30/04/2011 07:56

YABU. You've made your bed, I suggest you lie back and think of England.

Reality · 30/04/2011 07:59

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Anniegetyourgun · 30/04/2011 08:07

Did everything go well, OP? Have you decided where to have your honeymoon yet?

AmandaCooper · 30/04/2011 08:14

Or Cambridge! Grin

Now pull yourself together girl, you need to be updiffed by Christmas if you don't want to be whispered about in the News of the World.

nervousbride · 30/04/2011 08:17

[cgrin]

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SoloIsApparentlyACougar · 01/05/2011 00:26

And of course high heels in bed Wink did it go Ok?

nervousbride · 01/05/2011 22:32

Well the advice about high heels in bed was spot on [cwink].

Just as well I didn't opt for shagging the brother as he was still in the bar at 6am.

Have to say thinking of Wales didn't do it for me. OK to think of Mustique, d'you reckon?

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SoloIsApparentlyACougar · 02/05/2011 00:44

See!!! Wink told you!!!

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