I have completely emasculated my DH. He was trying to get amorous on the sofa and he kept doing the same moves which end up hurting me (not in a forceful way just bad angles/pressure IYSWIM) or tensing me up. I'm sick of it and lost it. We have been together over 5 and a half years and he still does not understand i don't like my inner thighs tickled, it just tenses me up and all feelings go out the window. You would think after over 5 years it would click.
I'm now in the other room feeling as guilty as hell. I have completely emasculated him. I know i handled it all wrong but is there a right way to say to your DH that he is always doing the wrong thing and its pissing you off? Sex was great at the start but as time as passed I think he thinks now its like a porn film and he can do standard things for 30 secs and then penetrate me. It does not work like that!! I am sick of telling him that grabbing my crotch or poking me with an erection does not turn me on in fact the complete opposite. He doesn't even try to do anything different that I MAY like just the same old shit moves.
I'm mostly on here to vent but any help to sort this problem out without me coming across as a callous bitch will be most helpful. I think i will start with an apology, but i have opened a can of rotting worms in our relationship....