MIL favouring one dc over other.

[kitten84]

I have 2 dc 4 and 6. Over the years I have become more of more aware that she favours older dd. DC are starting to notice too. In the past she has taken older one on holiday but not yoinger one. That is fine as obv older one easier. However, I have also noticed that gifts for older dd are far more thoughtful. DD gets lovely clothes from Debenhams ( in correct size) DS gets plain tshirts from poundstretcher. (too small)
DD also bridesmaid at an in law wedding and in all the pictures. Ds only in 1.
I am guessing there is not much I can do about this or do yuo have any tips?

if your daughter was a bridesmaid it is obvious she is going to be in more pictures at a wedding.

However, when buying things for her grandchildren they should cost the same or be of the same quaity.

When she buys them something say something. Tell her that you do not like it that she spends more on one than the other.

How does your DH feel about this, has he noticed as well?. Presumably even he has noticed t-shirts being bought by her for his son in too small a size.
What did you say to this woman after being handed such an item?.

Both of you need to put your foot down with regards to such overt favourtism shown by MIL, the children do and will notice such as they become older. Your son is not second rate and she should not be allowed to treat him as such.

You as their Mum and Dad both need to say something and now to her. Do not let her continue to do this. It is grossly unfair on both children and could well affect their relationship with each other to its detriment in the future particularly if you sit back and do not do anything.

many grandparents favour the oldest child

it's odd

but true

Does she have her own dd, or is your dd the little girl she never had?

Get your husband to talk to her and tell her that it is unacceptable and if she can't treat the children equally, then it is going to be difficult to allow her to have much of a relationship with them, because they are starting to notice and it is not nice for them.