Advice please

[Misstate]

Long story short, my ex and I have two children together and parted company last week ( he left family home)

He has refused to talk about childcare arrangments of when he will be having children.

He has now text me basically telling me "i will have kids one night in week and on a sunday". I have told him this is unfair as we haven't discussed.

I wanted for us to arrange for him to have the children everyother weekend & one night in the week. is this unreasonable ?

Is there anything else I can do to make arrangements fair ?

thanks in advance

It sounds like you want very similar things, so it should be workable. Your way is probably easier on the children and each of you, as you have a whole weekend to do stuff in. Just explain that to him gently.

He might not want them over night.

It is something you are going to have to discuss.

Neither of you has the right to impose on the other. My git instinct is he should see them more often than he suggests and for longer.

Are you married to him?

If so, you can get the access arrangements drawn up by a solicitor if it get's to that point.

I'd try and make him understand why it's important for you to have that space and for him to share the responsibilty of his children.

How are the DC's coping with all of this?

No not married,the kids are ok so far, trying to keep amicable but he is finding things hard as he did not want to leave.

Can you still draw up arrangments if your not married ?

thanks