when does it stop feeling so bad?

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hiya, my dh and I are seperating because we cant stand the sight of each other. I think he has been a complete and utter shit (but if you asked him he would say the same of me, I'm sure) Its been long and painful to make the decision. He is leaving the house (once I have agreed to some completely unreasonable financial arrangements!). I swing through so many emotions in a day- rage, hatred (of him and of myself), devestation, regret, relief, guilt, sadness, confusion, fear, I sometimes get a bit philosophical and start to feel more positive about the future....BUT my over whelming feeling is a very very painful guilt at what this will do to our children when I (not us, obviously) tell them. This feeling I find completely crippling, I cant bear it...how do kids cope? when does divorce start to feel less bad?

Kids do cope because we keep from them the worst of it, you put on a face for the children so they do not see how bad things are.

You just say you are not living together anymore but you both still love them.

thanks fabby

have you done this? when I look at my daughter, I just cant imagine telling her- but I know I am going to have to one day pretty soon. Shes 6 yo. How did yours react?