Working from home - AIBU?

[flowersandbubbles]

I moved in with my partner nearly a year ago.

He is an employee - a farm manager and he/we get a house provided free of charge.

DP has a converted barn as an office next to our house. It's big enough for a meeting with 4 or 5 people and has running water, heating, chairs and a kettle etc. It's a perfectly servicable office and meeting environment. The only thing it doesn't have is an office, although there is one in the farm buildings.

I work 4 days a week, so most of the time this doesn't affect me, but on my day off I am getting increasingly pee-ed off with DP just waltzing all and sundry into the house and making them a coffee and plonking themselves down in the front room. This sometimes happens at 7.30am so I always feel I have to be up and about from 7am even on my day off.

I have asked DP to "ask" me before he brings anyone into the house, reminding him that this is my home now too. We have argued about it and he keeps insisting this is what he has "always done". The people that he brings in are mainly sales reps, so it's not like he has to impress these people by giving them nice surroundings - they should be impressing him!

He now just carries on as before but "asks" me before hand knowing damn well that I won't say "no" and I just end up going out or hiding in the bedroom. I don't know why he doesn't understand that this upsets me?! Or am I being unreasonable seeing as the house comes with the job and I should just put up with it?

Thanks for all the replies and it's good to know I'm not alone in struggling with this situation.

I do think it is a bit of a power struggle. I do understand that some of this comes with the job, but whilst I am understanding that my life has to change to some degree, he seems oblivious that he should change anything at all and that is what is grating.

He doesn't speak to me condescendingly, but like I say, he just carries on as if I'm not there, which is not a nice feeling.

All I want is some "consideration" rather than me banning him from the house. Don't think I'm going to get it though, so will just have to keep remembering that it's my house too and I will do what I want when I want and he and his farming mates can just fit round me.

Have you asked him why he doesn't want to use the barn office? Because most farms don't have this, so the farm house becomes the farm office by default. He has a choice.