am i wrong for starting a new relationship

[ilovemybabie]

i split up wit ex partner about 4 weeks ago.

He cheated got his ex pregnant, i took him back then he ended it, 3 months later we tried again then his baby was born (she is lovely little thing :) ) he went really distant and didnt care anymore. We broke up and dont speak no more.

On Friday i started a new relationship with someone i have known a while but people keep saying i am stupid and moving on to fast. I am only 20 qnd dont want to be sitting round being botherd over the ex when he isnt doing the same.

easycomeeasygo Thank you :D

I didnt mean moving on in a relationship, i ment moving on in general. I know i dont need him or any other man in my life to be happy ect.

I do actally like my partner, like i said we have known each other a while and they way my friends are putting it across is as if i have gone out and got into a relationship with a complete stranger ( if that was that was the case, i wouldnt for one minute be questing it) if that makes sence.

Thank you for all the advise guys :) x

There is no reason why you sholdn't have some fun with this man as long as you are a)keeping him outside your DD's life and b) using reliable contraception. Just promise yourself you will not commit to the point of moving in for a good long time (like at least a year), and if the man starts behaving like a knob, dump him. It's fine to be single and life is much too short to put up with crap behaviour just ot have a Man in your life.

Nothing wrong with new relationships but I think its sensible to work out what went wrong with the last relationships before moving on. This is especially important if you have a child.

It's easy to think that the last guy and one before were losers (might have been) but you have to work out why you choose them. You also need to determine what makes you attracted to a man..is it personality (the outward signs of someone) if so do you know how to recognise someone's values?

i.e someone can be great fun, shared interests etc but have poor values (i.e faithfulness). It's usually when someone has similar values to us that a relationship lasts.

So I would use this relationship as a learning experience - don't be distracted by how he looks and what he says, work out what his actions are.Learn what the red flags are and then make sure you are strong enough to dump someone who displays warning signs.

Also make sure you are growing as a person as well. In 2 years time how will you have grown? What new skills or experiences..at 20 this should be about you and of course your daughter.

Be cautious if you always seem to be in a relationship - I know of one mum who has never been single, she can't be without a partner, as a result she makes very poor choices in men and her children suffer as a result.
Are you prepared to be single for a year...if not then work out why?

Dont get me wrong i can be single, thats not a problem tbh.

Smum99 I completely understand were you are coming from and what you are saying, if i for 1 minute think he is like the rest then i will end it.

I know the reason's why i was attracted to the ex's and they are completely differnt reasons to why i am attracted to my current partner.

SpringchickenGoldBrass I havent even slept with him, am not rushing things. but when i do i have the implant in so i wont be getten pregnant.