I started this thread in AIBU

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1200105-Husband-with-a-wandering-eye?msgid=25015681#25015681

I guess I am asking what do I do? If I separate from my husband where do I stand? I have no family, no savings, house is part of job and needs to be vacated within 90 days if we separate (MOD).

I do love my husband when he shows me affection and interest. But this happens so rarely. I think he thinks he loves me. But I know he just does anything for an easy life.

I agree with last two posts, very sensible. Why wait for a flare up? If you decide to leave, it should be on your terms, planned and calm, not caused by something he does / doesn't do and in the middle of a crisis. Are you looking for an excuse to leave so you don't feel guilty? Because you already have that, if that's the permission you need to give yourself.

Have you tried the 'five year plan' idea? Think about where you'd like to be in 5 years. There could be versions A, B, C,D as many as you need. Then think about what you'd need to do to get there. You don't have to do anything about them but you'll feel better knowing there's a way.