Hello, I would really appreciate advice from everyone about my relationship. My DP was badly brain damaged as a teenager (car crash). He is fine most of the time and you wouldn't really know there was anything wrong with him, maybe just a bit eccentric IYKWIM. The accident was a long time ago and he has never had a proper long term relationship because he finds it difficult emotionally.
I have known him for ages and have been seeing him for the last 3 years. I love him very much. The problem is when he drinks or gets stressed. He can become very emotionally abusive, i.e. call me names, tell me he wants other women, storm off home early, dump me etc. If he is drunk he sometimes phones me to be abusive. He has pushed me once but didn't actually hurt me. At other times he is loving and attentive.
He always apologises afterwards and we obviously avoid drinking together, but the episodes of abuse really upset me. I worry that they are damaging my self esteem because I feel so down afterwards. I do believe that it is his brain damage that causes him to act badly, it is like he becomes another person. We don't live together and never i will - I am happy with that.
I would like to know what other people think about this, maybe some of you are in a similar situation. I feel like my head is messed up and I don't know whether to stay in the relationship but I would be heart broken if we split up.