eBay password. Am I being paranoid???

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I could do with some advice please. My DH had an emotional affair over 8 months ago with a woman he used to work with. He's since left the company and has done his upmost to make it up to me. He's never once blamed me and has taken full responsibility for the affair. We have a 3 year old DD.

I thought i knew him and this came as a terrible shock at the time but we've been working through it and are the happiest we've been in quite some time.

I have however found out that he struggles with being honest about daft things. This comes from past girlfriends being possessive and jealous and he finds it difficult.

I found out about his affair by accident, answering his phone for him whilst he was ill. Since that time I've been lots more aware and generally keep an eye on things to put my mind at rest such as emails, texts etc. I've been better lately and try not to be consumed about this.

Today I've found out he's changed his password on his eBay account, don't know why as it's the normal one he uses for most things..

Please tell me to get a grip and stop mistrusting him. I don't feel i can approach him about it at the moment but I'm second guessing him... Please be gentle with me as I'm struggling with this

I wasn't aware that eBay was a hotbed for extra-marital intrigue- is there a reason you'd need his password? Sorry if I'm missing something.

:o sorry I'm not thinking he's talking to someone on eBay I just need to start to trust him and just need someone to either tell me to shut up or how to approach him.

Actually ebay would be an ideal way to comunicate online if you were so inclined . Just ask him.

"Today I've found out he's changed his password on his eBay account, don't know why as it's the normal one he uses for most things.."

Perhaps he has realised that having the same password for multiple sites is bloody stupid. Perhaps he had a reminder that he had a "weak" password.

However, the dishonesty is a worry. He and you might find this book interesting. www.dorothyrowe.com.au/index.php?u=Why_we_Lie.__May_2009.htm

You either trust him or you dont - and it sounds as if you dont. Why dont you feel you can ask him why he has changed his password? Are you worried he will be buying stuff of Ebay for someone else?

I don't think your relationship has recovered all that well, if you feel unable to ask him this simple question

sorry

It is advisable to change your password on eBay from time to time.

You don't need his password though to check his purchases you can find them on Goofbay even private listings.

When my ex changed his ebay password it was because he was buying things for another woman that he didn't want me to know about. Of course - she was just a "friend" however

If you don't trust him, get rid. Life is too short.

Actually ebay would be an ideal way to comunicate online if you were so inclined

I doubt that the line "Hey baby, mind if we emailed each other via eBay rather than hotmail" is a line most women would be impressed with.

I'm no expert but I suspect most women would have alarm bells ringing.

In the cold light of day i feel a bit daft. I asked him about it, he said he'd been having problems logging in with his password so changed it, he then promptly gave me the new password.

I still have issues trusting him but I know I also have a habit of blowing things up in my head. Far easier to simply ask him

I doubt that the line "Hey baby, mind if we emailed each other via eBay rather than hotmail" is a line most women would be impressed with.

Niceguy , married people who have affairs will find various ingenious ways of communicating to avoid detection . Glad its sorted op.

I was going to add that sometimes ebay passwords play up and you need to change them (mind you I have a bad habit of forgetting passwords, setting up new ones and then forgetting the new one...) glad you have sorted it out.
Also I think there are some sites where if you enter the wrong password a couple of times you have to reset it.

there ya see

good old-fashioned face-to-face communication

it works a treat (but appears to be going out of fashion )