what do you think?

[Kate050107]

Hi Guys and Dolls!,
I'm really interested to find out what factors people thought affected their relationship with their partner once the baby was born?

i know me and my husband had quite a wake up call and am very interested to hear your stories, particularly the guys perspective

Thanks!
Kate

And when can we expect to see the article?

i'm not a reporter, i'm a mum of 2 myself, me and my husband had a very difficult time and i'd like to know i'm not the only one out there

All you have to do is read through mn for a day or so. It will become apparent! I think lack of sleep is the main thing.

You probably need to start by posting (whatever you feel comfortable of) your own story, OP.

we struggled a lot with expectations i think, what i expected from him and visa versa, i'm not sure we ever communicated about them properly and it caused a lot of arguments

your right, sorry i'm new at all this, i'm not sure where to start to be honest......before my was born we used to do everything together, but after she was born he just became withdrawn from me, spent so much time at work and then went straight to the pub, when i spoke to him about it he seemed to just think that it was the normal thing to do, me do EVERYTHING for our daughter and around the house and have no social life and him come and go as he pleased, we had a very lengthly discussion about it all after he'd blown me off on my birthday and it seemed to calm down a bit after our daughter was about 6 months old.....sadly it all went down hill again after our son was born, he left when our son was 3 months old, came back 3 weeks later after blowing an entire months wage on partying, all this was quite a while ago now but i have been thinking about it all recently and assume i'm not the only one who's relationship changed drastically after the baby is born

It sounds like you had a rough time of it, Kate050107. You say you both had a wake-up call, does that mean you and your DH have smoothed things out now, as the division of labour in the early days seems grossly unfair. If you were breastfeeding it may have been difficult for him to know how to help - and I think some men struggle to bond when babies are small because they're not very interesting - not interactive or 'fun' enough in some ways.

Did you ever resolve why he left and came back? If you didn't, I'm not surprised this is preying on your mind now.