No sex please!

[monkey]

Following on from another discussion where someone is unhappy her dh doesn't want sex during pregnancy, I was interested to see if the situation is often reversed?

One other person said it was reversed for her (don't want to name names, unless she's ok with that).

Anyway, I, for one, have totally gone off sex. My libido has never been particularly high, but now I'm pg I could go on to say that I HATE sex.

Has anyone else felt like this and got over it? I read all these post of people enjoying sex & I feel my poor old dh must be really missing out. Sometimes I wonder if he'd eventually stray because of it.

Do many other women go off it just during pg?
what about after a difficult birth - how many go off it for this reason but then get back their libido's?

Interested in your views.

oh, okay

Was up for it and still am up for it when ever dp can tear himself away from his computer

If anything I was even more in the mood (as in constantly when pg) but dp felt it was as though someone else was in the room (which they were).iykwim.

Monkey,

I went completely off it for all my pregnancies (poor dh, he'd heard about all these women who are mad for it while pg!) and for up to a year afterwards.

These days with us it tends to be feast or famine, iykwim

I don't know your dh but speaking for mine, he puts up with the troughs because he loves me and because our relationship is so much more than sex...plus he knows that a peak usually follows a trough!

Just try not to let the affection go too - still have cuddles and be kind to each other, your dh can still feel loved without having to have sex.

HTH.

Monkey,

I went completely off it for all my pregnancies (poor dh, he'd heard about all these women who are mad for it while pg!) and for up to a year afterwards.

These days with us it tends to be feast or famine, iykwim

I don't know your dh but speaking for mine, he puts up with the times of famine because he loves me and because our relationship is so much more than sex...plus he knows that a feast usually follows a famine!

Just try not to let the affection go too - still have cuddles and be kind to each other, your dh can still feel loved without having to have sex.

HTH.

oh bother, tried to post, didn't think it had worked, went back, revised my mixed metaphors, then posted..now has posted my two versions..buggeration.

Monkey, I too went completely off sex during pregnancy, and for a long time after the birth. Things are getting a bit better now (ds is nearly 2!). You're definitely not the only one. I think marthmoo has some good advice there.