DH - feelings have changed towards him after having a baby

[Sierra19]

I am sitting here in tears. Our baby is nearly two months old. Apart from this nothing has happened. I just do not feel the same about him anymore.

We have been together for over half our lives (since school) but only got married whilst I was pregnant.

I hope so much that this is hormonal, maybe I just love my baby so much it has affected my love for him. Splitting up is not an option. As well as everything practical, I dont want to and I just want things to be the way they were.

Has anyone had this after having a baby?

We keep arguing because everything he does pisses me off. He is not really soon anythin wrong he is just grating on me.

*doing anything wrong

Can you explain more about how your feelings towards him have changed?

And how are you feeling generally?

Fwiw, it is incredibly common for relationships to hit the rocks after the birth of a first child. It is an overwhelming time for both of you. Don't make any rash decisions.

I would guess that it is very very likely to be hormones.
Try to rationalize your feelings of frustration, by telling yourself that you are feeling the way you do about him because your hormones are off, not because he is doing something wrong, this sort of self talk can really help.
This WILL pass.

Yea I think an element of this is normal. Are you resenting him for his life still being the same, his body his work etc while you have made massive changes for this bby ?

I think I am a bit jealous that he gets time away from it all although if I went back to work early I would miss my baby too much. He does do his fair share and he is great with DS but he will never really understand what it is like to be at home all day on your own.

Other than this I feel fine, but obviously tired.

I just don't have time for him anymore which I think is the root of this. However I just dont feel like I want time with him. He used to be my world but now he is not.