I was split from my ex for 18 years when my present partner became pregnant. I sat the children down and told them and they were both made up for us and yet the ex never spoke to me again after that such was her anger I am assuming the children you refer to here are yours and your ex's? well thats great and that's what I would expect a decent father/man to do! I admit..last night I did feel angry, it's forgotten about now, I spoke to my DH about it last night after I posted this actually because he was reading the comments. Anyway, not that I have to explain myself to you Chris from brum..but seeing as you've judged me without even knowing me or my situation I will explain a little IF you can be bothered to read it. My ex H is extremely lucky he had the contact he did, If theres one thing I've always maintained it's that he could see the girls whenever he liked, for as long as the girls wanted to, at the end of the day it's up to them, I wouldnt make them see him if they didnt want to. Heres a little taster of what he was like...he strangled and lifted me off the ground while his hands was still around my throat while I was pregnant with DD1 (infront of his friend) which resulted in me giving birth early, and DD1 was very tiny and very sick and to this day...she is 16..she still has problems he kicked me in the head while i was driving the car, I just gave birth to our DD2, I left him him alone with her on the ward, I came back, he'd gone and robbed my purse. I had money put away in a wardrobe..not alot £500, to start us off for our first place we had, he took that also..was spent on drugs. He slept with my next door neighbour, he hit me, to the point where our DDs where huddled together screaming, he's tried to run me, DH and his own children off the road in a stolen car when he had no insurance or license to drive..yes I should have got out from the start, and yes police was involved. like I said thats just a little taster of what this man is like, would you allow your daughter and her children to be treated this way?? I'd think not but nothing surprises me!
So what are you going to say now Chris? I was a bad mother for putting my children through this? or do you think this was acceptable behaviour from him?? I really do think you should re-read what you've put and take your own advice!
To the OPs..thank you, didn't think it would kick off like that but chrisinbirmingham - do you, by any chance, have anger management issues???? who knows??
KristinaM you are right he is a BASTARD! and your not a waste of space. I was talking to my xH xgf last night I told her I wish he'd had children with her, she's a very decent woman who he also took advantage of and she put this *well to tell you the truth hun your kids dont need him and look how he would bring them up anyway be druggies and thieves they r better off without him tbh you have done a brill job hun and they love you xxxxx
Well at the end of the day, I can say Its a good job I got out when I did, I'm very proud to say that my DD's have had the upbringing which they deserve, I have a wonderful, supportive, hard working DH . And if ever XH's children knocked my door in however many years (and it will happen) to come we would welcome them with open arms because the top and bottom of it is..is that there are 4 children here that didnt ask for any of it. 