does relationship counselling work?

[pigstrotters]

DH and I have been married for six years and the last year has been very tough and so we are going to try counselling. The truth of the matter is that I would cut loose if it were not for my 3 lovely kids. I am desperate to try and make things work but is this possible if my main motivation is my kids happiness?

I've never been on the receiving end of counselling, but have had some training in one to one counselling.

I would always suggest you give it a go, unless there has been abuse/DV in the relationship. The feeling that your motivation is more your children than your relationship with your H may be, in part, down to the state of your relationship at the moment, so that could change, IYSWIM. But it doesn't mean it can't work, anyway. As long as you are both motivated to try counselling for the good of your relationship, it is definitely worth a go.

If it doesn't enable you to stay together, it can at least help you through your separation. But hopefully it won't come to that.

Thank you moo moo. Thats reassuring. I have thought about fact that counselling may help me to see that in some cases kids are better off in a divorced happy home than an ubhappy married one.

I have been breifly with DH and it really helped us - and I know someone else who went with her DP and although they didn't stay together it really helped her move one