Male friends

[royisahero]

I?m happily married and I recently met a married man on a course who I got on well with. He made me feel lively and interesting, more my old self than I've done in years. I would love to meet up with him again, when I emailed him about keeping in touch he replied he?s always up for beers and fun. Is it possible to have such a friendship or am I being naïve ? I really don?t fancy him but I am drawn to him - my husband?s far more attractive to me and I?d never want to wreck 2 families, but I feel constantly stressed by the thought of never seeing this guy again. Any advice, or slaps, welcome.

beer and fun? what kind of fun?
yep, naive

I would say be very careful - have you told your DH about meeting this guy - would you be happy for you and DH and this guy and his wife to go out - say. If so then fine

But I would say getting a babysitter - assume you have kids - and a night out with your DH or even a night away might be a more useful use of your time

Steer clear. Feeling stressed at not seeing him is a big red flag, as is him saying he's up for "beer and fun." No issues with having male friends in principle, but this sounds like it could have potential to be something more, and just isn't appropriate.

red flags;

your new friend is up for beers and fun - read no strings extra marital activity

You don't really fancy him but are constantly stressed at the thought of never seeing him again - read You fancy the attention he gave ( not him)

you don't want to wreck two families - read STEER WELL CLEAR OF THIS BEFORE YOU WRECK YOURSELF

X posts Carly, but we are thinking on the same lines

Don't go there OP

Looking back it wasn't such a difficult question was it...thanks everyone! Sorted.