Calling all body language experts! Decipher this? :)

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Back story here --> www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1192000-Does-he-like-me-I-cant-tell-Online-convo

Finally met up again round my Mum's, social visit on both parts.

I notice other people present kept playing musical chairs on the sofas so that I seemed to keep getting the seat next to him everytime I returned to the room, but he was quite happy to sit next to me, body language very open, arms just barely touching. Looked at me when talking.

I noticed however if I tried any sort of flirty glints in the eye during conversation he'd return them, or did he look very slightly bemused I don't know, but if I held his gaze too long it turned uncomfortable I feel, I honestly do believe he is just still getting over his previous partner and I need to give it more time.

If a man slouches right back into the sofa though, arms behind head, legs akimbo, is that indication he may be arrogant or just very at ease? He's 6'4" so probably needed the legroom though :) Was sat right next to me like this.

Both my sisters are also good friends with him and he occassionally pops over to their house for a social visit, so in theory I could ask them to broach a discussion on what he thinks of me, but that might make him back off, if he thinks there's a whole family conspiracy! Having left his previous partner of 16 years, they now live seperately having sold their house and he is living he says for the first ever time on his own, in his little bachelor flat, so maybe he needs that space after being with someone so long.

Well I am not 100% convinced with the body language argument (i.e sometimes I'll sit with my arms folded because it's comfortable not because I'm defensive ). BUT if he's single, you're single and you've made it clear you fancy him, well what's stopping him asking you out? Sorry, sounds like he's just not that interested.

i think you are reading way too much into what his body language may be saying.

trust your instinct if he likes you, you'll know. if he doesn't, you'll know.

I said it on the previous thread and I will say it again- he's just not that into you!!!!! You have made it patently clear you like him and he has not receprocated. Please stop deluding yourself and find someone who is interested in a relationship with you.

what PINK said
Also last thing you want to do is get your sisters to ask him about you. It seems to be everybody's knowledge that you fancy the pants out of him he already.
I would be curious on why he left his ex after 16 yr, maybe he had a lover and she was not available to him but nevertheless he took action to move out. You say him and his ex are on good terms now and he seems to be making an effort with her. It could well be that his affair was quickly over and now they are trying to patch it up. In either case I am just guessing really, but even if none of the above was true he does not seem that into you OP, he had plenty of chances to make a move, it must be so blatantly obvious to him you are keen... Retreat now, cut the habit of evening chats, stop going around relatives when he is there. He may notice you more once you are out of the picture, who knows

He left his Ex because he just 'fell out of love', he said.
She is in the process of moving a few hundred miles away now their house is sold.

I didn't go to my mum's because he was there, he offered to drop something off for me round there and I'd meet him. He stayed a few hours for a chat.

16 years is a long time, he feels immense guilt and sadness at leaving her, he still needs time to deal with his actions, he's said.

My sister said that he told her that if he didnt have so much to deal with in his head right now, he would probably make a move.

I think that all means he might just be a little 'into me'.

Nope sorry not buying it.Even if he was still grieving for the relationship he would have given you some indication that he night be available in the future. His actions speak volumes. I believe he is using you to stroke his ego(obviously very flattering to have someone so "into you"). Please stop having this fantasy relationship with this man and go and find a real one.

Oh leave this poor man alone!

Plink, you need to back off and play harder to get. Men love a chase but you are doing all the chasing so you are actually scaring him away!!! Stop being so available online, start going out (pretend if you have to), tell him you were at a club and a gorgeous guy asked for your number! You are not getting anywhere at the moment so you have nothing to lose by trying a different tactic.