I feel really stupid and selfish posting this.

[FAB5]

Now that the kids are older they go to sleep later so it means we don't get to have sex at the times we used to and by the time they are fast asleep we are too knackered. Mornings don't work either as they are up early. We have talked about getting a lock on our bedroom door as the kids don't even knock sometimes and even if they do whatever we say they come in. It doesn't feel right though as it feels wrong to having sex when they are up and about. TBH I would like more sex some times than DH does but when weeks go by because we can't get time alone both of us feel a bit though more me I suspect.

Lock on the door, new rules for the children on privacy, music on in the bedroom and non-squeaky bed.

LOL .

Thanks for giving me a laugh .

those children need telling that they dont just walk in

why are they not listening to what you say?

Lock yourselves in the bathroom? ;)

How about signing them up for some strategically timed clubs/playdates/visits to grandma etc so they are all out at the same time once or twice a week?

How old are the kids?

DH has already suggested the bathroom .

To be fair it is the younger one who doesn't always remember to knock and wait but even if they do knock and wait you still have to answer them and then the moment is gone. It was bad enough trying to have fun as a teenager without someone coming in but now I am a flipping adult and still can't have sex!!

The kids are 5-10.

We also had this problem(3 dcs). The suggestion of an afternoon quickie is a good one(do kids go out to play? get gps to take them to park?). When we get really horny/desperate we lock the door and if they come knocking we tell them them we are talking about santa. Works a treat!.

HAHA!

'Heyyyyy...fancy a quick (wink) chat about Santa?'

Oohhh yes please

Lock on the bedroom door, and go to bed earlier, i.e an hour after the children have gone to bed so you can have some nookie time.

We told the kids they were going to bed at 8. DS1 is not happy that he can't watch a film on his mp4 player and doesn't mind that dh and I want alone time and he will sleep in in the morning .

FabbyChic speaks wise words. Certainly worked for us. Actually there was a period when our sofa saw more action than the bed!

Fear not, this time passes. Now that DCs are older there isnt a problem. The bolt on the door means that we cant be walked in on which gives us some confidance!

Yes, the sofa used to see action but too risky now as the kids appear sometimes without us hearing them.

Put a lock on your door - then the kids don't have to be fast asleep, just in their own rooms. Surely yours aren't up that late though are they when the eldest is only 10?

Are they allowed to get up and do their own thing in the mornings? Then surely you have weekend mornings at least?

Where there's a will, there's a way!

and where there's a willy there's a wayhay!

We just don't want to do it when they are awake. We did once and felt like we were doing something bad and would get into trouble!

FAB5 - this time passes. As DCs get older this whole early morning waking passes. These are times when you feel as though DCs occupy the whole house. This is the time when a bolt on your door is a good idea. Your DCs are now at an age when they need to respect privacy. Not just yours but their own. My DCs are now 11-15, they do not go into each others rooms without knocking first and being invited in.

Oh and remember - this 'something bad' made your DCs in the first place!

What about something like this? It makes a noise if someone comes into the room.

Are your children still awake when you go to bed?

The older one is awake sometimes at nine. DH and I used to love an early evening time in bed and then coming back down to snuggle under the blanket and watch tv together.

He isn't bothered about it as much as me as he wants sex a lot less.