How much do you talk to friends about your family/relationship?

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DP was very upset with me yesterday for chatting to a friend about a minor upset that had happened with his two children the day before, it was really trivial and not something I felt was confidential. He then told me that something else I had told my friend had made him uncomfortable, even though again it was trivial. He feels everything in our families and home lives is private and between us.

I do find I need support from friends and part of that is sharing events and problems. I will of course respect his wishes, but wondered if this was normal in your household? It made me feel guilty and as though I should own up to everything I had shared in the past, but I am sure that wouldn't be a good idea.

I felt it was a bit controlling and due to previous experiences it really upset me. I should add that he is very gentle and kind and not at all controlling in any other way.

DH knows that I tell one of my close friends almost everything. He's never moaned about it.

I tell my mates a lot but I dont tell my H that I've told them. Why would I?

DH knows that me and my mates talk about everything............but then so does he and his mates.

I don't tend to discuss serious relationship issues with friends or family. I think certain bits should be kept private and I'm often surprised at how much is revealed on here. I don't think that everything needs to be kept private but certainly sexual matters and most conflicts in the household. DH is pretty much the same so it works for us.

I was in a relationship once when my DP would often discuss things with his family and I felt they would automatically take his side and I felt uncomfortable around them as a result. In any conflict, most of the time both parties are being a bit unreasonable but your friends/family are going to side with you out of loyalty, especially when the episode is related from your pov.

I do mum quite a bit if I'm worried, I don't talk to friends really, sometimes do if i'm angry & need to vent, but mostly I choose not to, prob not a good thing given my previous form with XH & shutting down on everyone, but at least I talk to mum now.

DP knows I talk to mum but never asks, he talks to his buddys i'm sure - likewise I don't ask, fundamentals thou we talk to each other & keep it between ourselves - somethings are between a couple I feel. (other things like him making a tit ou of himself thou are not! :o)

I was using Windows Messenger to chat to my friend and he does know that I tell her most things, he just casually said "What are you chatting about?" perhaps I shouldn't have been honest! Thanks for your replies

I don't think that there's anything that I couldn't tell my friends but tbh I just don't feel the need to, unless its particularly annoying/funny or we have a serious problem.
Dp used to get a little perturbed about sharing our problems, but soon discovered the advantages of having the moral support (which was extended to him also) and as I don't blab every little detail, I think he's actually quite grateful that I can round up support either practical or emotional when required. This really only applies to big problems, normal day to day stuff isn't really ever discussed.
We prefer to get drunk and have a laugh (me and my friends that is)