I think dh and I could do with some counselling and have tried to pick up the phone to Relate a few times today but not managed to go through with it. Could someone tell me what is likely to happen if we do go?
DS1 is 3 and DS2 is 6 months. DH and I have been married for 4 years ( together for 6 ). We're not having loads of rows and ,as far as I know, DH hasn't had an affair ( but wouldn't blame him if he did) but I think our marriage is "vulnerable" to something happening. All very familiar but basic problems are:
Don't talk about anything other than kids,house,bills,work etc.
No affection. No sex for over a year ( DH didn't want to when I was pregnant and I haven't wanted to since DS2 born). This is a symptom of underlying problems rather than primary problem I think.
Tiptoe round DH all the time as anything I say is taken as perceived criticism of him. Can't have a discussion about anything important that we disagree on. Therefore I don't say anything much.
I don't know if I love him any more. Sometimes I think I do ( think it's affection and appreciation as he's a wonderful father)other times can't stand to be in the same room.
I'm frightened that counsellor will tell us we shouldn't be together - is that likely to happen?
From a practical standpoint - where is counselling likely to take place? When ( evenings ?). How many sessions do they offer and how frequently? I would just like to talk to somebody else and get an objective view of our relationship ( so would help if he was there ) but he's so touchy about anything I say which "puts him down" it's going to be tricky.
Jesus, reading this again, think we probably do need to go . Help!