Man behaving badly

[notasheep]

Advice please,is boyfriend being unreasonable?!!
Last night he was cooking pasta for the family,lost his temper whilst i was on phone to girlfriend,he stopped cooking,left house at 5.30pm in a rage was out all night,never phoned me.I got up in morning to
organise children for school,he still isnt around and still no phone call,not sure what time he eventually arrived home as i went out for the day!!
I asked where he had been,he said he just gone for a
drive!

Is the pope a catholic?

What do you want to do about it?

Where to? John o groats? I'd be fuming!

I am obviously being a doormat,i made the word up with daughters fridge magnets one day.So that was another rage!
So I should obviously leave him,its easier coming from a stranger than a close friend going there there.
I dont think he can take the responsibilty like alot of them.
When babe was 2 weeks old man said i wasnt meeting his emotional needs!!!!!no,i had just had baby!!
I could go on and on,maybe i need to.Get it all out of my head!!!

I do not think the Cannabis helps either and the story goes on

My plan A is seperate for 3 months!!! and for him to
see children like a divorced dad might,for instance every Wednesday afternoon and all day Sunday and see where we are at then?

sounds like a plan, life is far too short to be treated like a doormat, me n my dp are together because we love spending time together and raising our family together we love waking up with each other and i cant wait for him to get home from work - this is after 4 years and 2 children one of which is only 5wks old, all im saying is everyone deserves to have a relationship that makes them happy, good luck with finding your happiness!

kelly22 thankyou for your support i feel so torn because he is a hands on dad and helps me with EVERYTHING!He will not watch sport on tv or read a newspaper-he is there 4 me to change nappies,bathtime,cook dinner,hang washing out,gardening,DIY,takes the children swimming and if I have a girly weekend away then he will care for them 24 hours a day(rather than hand them to grandma)I am off to London for 3 nights soon so do get time for myself.He is such a jekyl and hyde character,suddenly he is off out for beer and the rest then i feel sooooooooo trapped

A friend thinks i should get out as i do not need him financially!! but money isnt the issue,maybe its something to do with him being a red head,a hot temper!

thomcat and Queen Victoria any sound advice 4 me on this one

why did he storm out in the middle of cooking?

He doesnt sound that terrible tbh. Just not good at expressing himself. Unless i have missed something?

You havent said anywhere that you love him. Which kind of tells me that you have made your mind up about him already. Need more details really about how you feel and he feels to advise better. Its a bit sketchy!

(have you had a recent name change notasheep?)

Only been on Mums net 2 weeks and totally addicted,no name change,i have always been notasheep

difficult to go into intimate detail re the relationship but you are right on the love thing,i really do not know if i do love him,i do not trust him so maybe that says it all,the big problem is a huge role reversal,he is a student i own the house outright,which may sound fantastic but causes huge problems

Have you both sat down and talked about your situation? About why he gets so angry about stuff? About how you feel etc.

just tried to send big message and boyfriend walked in study so have to curtail this right now i will be back on Monday,i am off to Bath tomorrow on 2 day Cookery course!!

Oooh you lucky devil. Have a good time!

course was wonderful,now this the boyfriend problem-as a child his father permanently shouted at him.So if we have any slight confrontation he is back to being a child,says stop having a go at me and walks out!!bf is aware of his problem with his past but cannot get on top he has even been to a psycotherapist,so communication is a problem!!!! so many things i have wanted to talk about i have withheld.Also it does not help that i own the house,a wonderful position u may think but it has been 1 big headache.Also he is a student so responsibility is an issue but it shouldnt be-he is 37!!!!!!!!
I really miss him on my weekends away so maybe that is a sign that we should really get through this difficult time.

Have you tried writing down how you feel in a letter to him?

Great idea u ,i think i also read that somewhere in men from mars blah blah blah,need it out of my head and on reams of A4,could be a thesis!
Thankyou!! i am beginning to see the light already.
speak to you again no doubt.
End of thread!!!!!!!!!

No worries, good luck.