During my marriage my ex was repeatedly unfaithful to me, with women he met out and also with prostitutes, he was doing this the whole time we were trying for children so put us all in a lot of danger. I split up with him but he refused to move out for over 8 months afterwards and only went after I called the police because he attacked me.
While he was still there I had a short fling, cant really call it a relationship, that lasted about 6 weeks. He snooped, went through my phone, put spyware on the computer etc and found out all the details.
Since then he has told me he feels totally justified in doing everything he did to me as always "knew" I would end up doing it to him. He told me that he could never get back with me (gutted! not!) and his family all think he is a mug for paying child support and being on friendly terms with me because I had this "affair" and "f*cked around" on him. I know that his family do feel like this because of their attitudes towards me now. They all know everything else that went on in the marriage before but still see me as some kind of Scarlet Woman for what happened at the end.
Now I am actually pretty angry about this. It does no good to try to justify myself with him or them but I want to understand more about why I am thought of like this by many who know us, including those who know the full story. What he did is acceptable as this is what Men do. But what I did is disgusting and I am the lowest of the low.
I honestly don't get how people who know what went on, witnessed it in come cases can see me in this way. Other women who were both our friends etc. Everyone treats me quite distantly now and I have lost friends over it. I had to go through all of this and at the end I am despised. Any thoughts please?