Does life get better after a break up?

[darleneconnor]

So, if I take the advice of people on here who've said I should leave DP, how can I be 100% sure my life will actually improve?

Ok so the bad bits of the relationship will be gone but so will the good bits. What if I make a mistake... there's no going back. I know I'm being a coward by playing safe and staying but it would F* up my (and the DCs) lives in several ways if I left (financial, potential homelessness, inability to cope with childcare/housework, DCs missing Dad, less babysitting so less freedom for me, less sex, lonliness and potential depression). These things are real and not to be sniffed at.

Did anyone else feel like this pre-break up but have a happy ending?

If you are not sure then what is the hurry? It is a huge decision affecting so many people so you should give it plenty of time. One day you will wake up and you will know what to do.

I left seven months ago. I gave up a big house and all my stuff and left my teenage kids with their Dad. I live just down the road and see them most days. DH has risen to the challenge (his choice) and has taken on running the family home.

I am now happier than I have been in years. People comment on it almost daily. I laugh, I have fun, I am lighthearted. And "no sex" is better than "bad sex" surely? At least till someone lovely comes into your life, which they won't if you are still married.

But you can't have a 100% guarantee for anything in life. You have to make your choice with all the information you have and then try to make it work. That's all anyone could do.
Be brave, but don't rush!!

What are the reasons for the potential break-up? I they involve violence then it is serious....can you explain more?

Yes i felt exactly like this before breaking up with my sons father 4 years ago, i think it is very normal to think these things, but for me the bad times definately outwayed the good times i was unhappy for many many years and i felt it would if not already affect my son. I can honestly say i was 100% happier on my own without him and have never once regreted my decision to end the relationship, my son was actually happier as well. But if you are not 100% sure it is the right thing then i think i would not rush into ending it unless he is violent or cheating or you feel deep down that it will never work, they do say sometimes you need a bit more sh*t before you can end a relationship i just new i had had enough, thinking about it though i probably spent two years contemplating leaving him and i do regret waisting that time as i new it would never work.Hope this helps good luck with what ever decision you decide to make.