He's left me in the S**t, and he isn't finished yet.

[Sugarfreetea]

It seems he's not satisfied with destroying the marriage, now he wants to continue controlling me from a distance. I'm all over the place, despite reassurance from the solicitor. Always thought the end of the relationship would be the most scary thing ever to face. But no. The aftermath is much, much more frightening than that.

keep communications through solicitors.....its expensive to send a letter over every little thing,he'll soon realise that

do you have dc?

If its any consolation, you sound well rid of him. Try and look on it as a process of untangling yourself so that you can reach a better place. I often wonder how these people live with themselves, but the fact is that they are deluded and you will never make sense of how they are behaving. They don't have a heart.

You may not find solace in any breakthrough moments or revenge, but in the longer term you will look back and be glad that you did not waste any more years with this person.

It will get better but hang on to friends and family at the moment and take any support you can get. Having to deal with the practical issues together with having your emotions trashed by him is a double blow. Keep your dignity and take each day as it comes.

Hi Tiffany
Yes we have a DD who is old enough to make her own decisions and knows for herself about what he got up to.
but he's using tons of manipulation to get to her.

But DD isn't old enough to marry or anything, still at school.

That's what makes it all the worse, what a heinous f***g TWUNT he is!!!

In exactly the same position myself Sugar. You have my deepest sympathy.

You too, Frantic? What's your story? How do you get through this?

Sugar don't really want to talk about it in detail on here but have PMd you. Hope you don't mind?

no of course not, apolos if broke any MN rules here, am a bit new to it . will read your message