How do I do this?

[ChasingMoonbeams]

I don't want this stay for long but need help bringing a situation to an end please.

I'll try to keep this simple although it is very complicated.
I can't deny I have feeling for a married man and it has felt like there is a chemistry. I have never pursued it. He is married. And him and his wife are my customers.
She has always been a bit off with me but more and more so as time went by.
He is nearly always the one to come to my business,
Two years ago I got fed up of things being weird and asked them (through him) to take custom elsewhere.
3 months later she contacted me to ask me to take them on again. I struggled to say no and so took it on.
They and her family (some live in the village) mostly completely ignore me if we pass on the street, I see their car etc (most of my customers give a cheery wave etc)

Last night I bumped into them and her mother at the supermarket, smiled and said hi to her, she did smile, but he wouldn't/couldn't/didn't look at me. (I had my headphones on)Carried on and she suddenly appeared on an isle I was on, I smiled, carried on to the till.

Suddenly they are behind me at the tills, I smile, no point in even attempting friendly small talk, sort of went to say goodnight as I would have done any other customer and nothing. She looked 'away' He wouldn't/couldn't/didn't look at me again.

Ok fine, their issues, but this is also my life, I hate having to be friendly and polite at my own business and be pretty well ignored on the street or made to feel uncomfortable when I actually haven't done anything.

How do I word a polite request for them to take their custom elsewhere?
And if I do it soon is it going to look like I am being huffy about last night?
It is bloody obvious I have a healthy business which means the only reason I have to request it IS personal but I am fed up. I can't help liking him. But to have to chat at my own front door and then be so obviously blanked out is crap.
And I do understand how she must feel.
So why use my bloody service?

I have never pursued it, apart form offloading on here, I don't go out of my way to be in their part of the village despite 3 of DD's friends living on their street,

It does hurt, but that is my problem. Having them as customers just doesn't make sense does it?

Please, if you work out who I am don't out me. I think some one from RL 'lurks' and reads my stuff.

Do you sell stuff face to face or is it a business where you order and deliver? You could just say that you don't have what they want in stock....?

It is rude to be blanked like that. Sounds like the wife knows her husband had/ has a thing for you!

I have to do stuff face to face and it is a service rather than being product based. So I either withdraw the service or continue having them as customers.

He did once admit that he is not allowed to accept any help apart form exchanging cash, so yes, I strongly suspect that she knows.

I can empathise with her but we live in a small village, I can not avoid them completely.

If I terminate my service to them, I don't have to pretend anymore or be one thing when dealing with thew as customers and another at any other time.

I have a moderate sized customer base and all of my other customers are 'friendly' would speak on the street etc.
It makes me feel like crap.

Could anyone just advise me how to word a note of closure to them as customers?

Hmm! I've got something similar going on but am going to tell them I'm changing direction - obviously you can't do that because you serve a tight-knit community. I have fired clients citing the working relationship - it is responsible to resign some business on the basis that you feel you've given it your best shot but have concluded it's best for you to go separate ways.

However. Lots of people are a bit funny about keeping business & personal relationships apart. Evidently there is some weirdness going in their marriage but, unless you're their counsellor, that shouldn't need to bother you. Would it not be simpler for you to respect their needs, as it were, and treat them as nodding acquanitances outside of work?

If you're sure you don't want to work for them any more, drop them a short note to say you're terminating the arrangement. I wouldn't explain or make it long, just the bare bones, and let them make of it what they will.

Garlic I think I find it difficult because I do like him.
So my natural inclination to smile/wave whatever is causing me to be unsettled.

I see them, together or individually almost daily, it isn't a 'big' deal but enough to make daily life unsettling. It gets rreally crap over the summer because we are all out and about so much.
It was horrible yesterday and yet when I see him or even them I have to be chirpy and I don't feel it. Perhaps my own issues are making me unreasonable but it almost felt yesterday that I was being put under pressure. I know when you are in supermarkets it gets a bit like that, keep bumping into someone but there were loads of tills with the same or less queue yet they came to the one I was on. Ad if to make a point?

I have tried really hard to do the discreet, nodding thing but it feels crap when sometimes I might not be acknowledged at all and then have to stand at my own door being polite.

Just offloading a bit.
I feel really really fed up and sad.
I might leave it a few weeks and then terminate the arrangement.