Two questions about divorce

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Firstly, what finally made you instruct the solicitor? Have seen her a couple of times, life at home is crap and I am certain that I want us to split. He won't leave so a 'separation' isn't an option to buy me some time, however I just feel really scared at the thought of calling the solicitor and asking her to start divorce proceedings. What made you do it in the end?

Secondly, and sorry if this is rude, what did the legal fees cost you in the end? I realise everyone is different but even though our finances aren't particularly complicated, h is determined to be difficult so is likely to fight every step of the way

Thanks

i have just instructed my solicitor bcos new girlfriend approached and told me allhes been saying abt me(lies) and she wonders how i was able to cope with him.(she left him too).
the cost depends on the solicitor,u need to talk abt it.good luck

He became violent. That's when I instructed a solicitor.
£10k so far and still going.

£3,500 - £5000 to get to settlement if it needs a financial dispute resolution hearing, plus about another £5000 if I need a barrister for the whole process through to decree absolute.

It's enough to scare the pants off, but not enough to stop me going for what I have to do to get rid of the bastard. Hope this helps.

God, scary numbers. Going to do it tomorrow though, just scared stiff!

Thanks everyone

Am £1k into costs but using mediation (not because of the ConDems - it was the plan all along). Have a civil(ish) relationship with X. Am hoping my costs will not exceed £2k including mediation costs. There is only the house to sort out and I think that can be done via mediation. There are no access issues as he is too bloody lazy to contemplate full/half-time parenting.

I instructed a solicitor about a month before he moved out. We agreed to seperate but it took him six months to actually leave for reasons best known to him (live in large city with plenty of rental accommodation, he has a good income and repeatedly told me he hated our house )

Hi,

Knowing there was no future for us (he left me) and his appalling behaviour made me decide to go for divorce rather than a long setaration which he wants/ed.

Luckily, I get legal aid which I'm very grateful for.

Where how are you ?