My best friend has given me an ultimatum today. I am thinking of dropping her for wanting to control me like this. I have listened to her, but don't agree and resent the 2 week silence she's just put me through. I am a little miffed at this possesive, manipulating and jealous side of her. Is it the end?
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(Backstory) My best friend, I'll call her 'Sara', met another friend of mine called Joanna. I'd known Sara for about 15 years, and Joanna for 12 years. Joanna was a colleague who became a close friend. They both knew of eachother but weren't friends. They met more regularly after I had the baby 4 years ago, and seeing as I couldn't accompany them as much to restaurants, cinemas, bars, clubs as frequently, and they were still childfree and single, they spent a lot of time together.
They now don't get on. Joanna finds Sara very tiring and draining. Sara finds Joanna very unreliable. However, the relationships I have with them is different. Today Sara said it vexes her to hear about my freindship with Joanna as she feels like she's been treated badly by her. (Late text replies, no communication, not willing to meet up etc.) She suggested that I should stick up for her and boycott Joanna's birthday.
Sara had only recently text Joanna asking to meet up. Sara never mentioned this text to me. Joanna told me this when she was round mine. Joanna had text back saying she's busy. Their relationship seems to be based on going out, or meeting up and they never phone eachother or email, whereas I speak to them both for hours.
2 weeks ago, I text Joanna and asked her if she wanted to come round to mine. Joanna came round for dinner after work. Sara called me during that time and heard her. I said Joanna is round, and since then Sara stopped talking to me.
I know it's childish, but I am sick of the drama this is creating. Sara stopped replying to my text messages. 3 days later I asked if anything was wrong, she said no, she's just busy. A week later, still no calls or text which is very strange as we speak almost every day. I called and asked what's happening. She said she's watching the cricket but that she isn't ignoring me. Today, I called her several times and she picked up. Sounded really casual about my text messages and calls. She feels like I encourage Joanna's bad friendship behaviour and that Joanna has treated her really badly and she doesn't want to hear about her anymore. I told Sara I don't speak to her about Joanna, except that she's round or that we had dinner...as we have been for the last 12 years? She said it's too much for her and she can't talk to me as long as I'm friends with Joanna.
It's childish. It's stupid. I think I already know the answer. Do I give Sara the space and let her come round. Shall I dump Joanna who calls me a lot and we also have a great relationship. I suggested to Sara they should both meet up and have it out with eachother but she doesn't like the idea of that either. What shall I do. Salvage the relationship or call it a day?