Dh has lost his wedding ring - just what do I say?!!

[beansprout]

We only got married 2 months ago. His ring was too big and I have asked and begged him to get it resized otherwise he was going to lose it. I said I would be heartbroken if he did and now he has. He says he hasn't had time but he has, he has just chosen to do other things (watch football, buy cds etc etc).

The rings meant the most to me. We did everything else on the cheap but bought decent rings as hey, we thought they would be permanent!

This is also the man who lost our camera on honeymoon, the one with all the wedding photos on it.

This time I have really had enough. Has anyone else experienced this - what did you do?

Awww sorry to hear this beansprout Is your dh very laid back like mine? When my dh drives me potty I try to remember the positive stuff about him. Think I'd have a rant over this though. My dh puts sport at the top of his list most of the time but I knew that before I married him so can't complain.

Hope he finds it soon.

why would you buy a ring and THEN make him get his finger measured? Wouldn't any sane person measure their finger before buying a ring (or god forbid just try a load on and buy one that fits?!)

some people are very sentimentally attached to their wedding rings ( not me though) I used to work wiht a girl who sworw that she would never take hers off - -she tried to show me the engraving inside without actually taking it off.

mine comes off all the time - -didin't fit when I was pregnant. Actually I'm on my second ring -- had to take the first one back

DH doesn't wear one - he'd have lost it by now if he did anyway.

Does he really want to wear one? Sounds to me like maybe he doesn't.

PPH, I'm really not sure what you mean! We went to the jewellers together to get the rings. I wasn't sure what you meant by "she should have got him one that fitted"?

Why didn't he get a ring that fitted him then, BS?

I think dh lost weight before our wedding because it seemed to fit when we bought it but obviously slid off easily on the beach. We think it came off while he was snorkelling and washed up on the beach as we never, ever sat on the part of the island where it was found.

PPH, as I read it, Beansprout's DH did go and get it fitted before buying it; only he didn't get it fitted very well (which is a truly blokey thing IMO).

Point out you are a Respectable Married Woman and will of course only be prepared to have sex with your Lawfully Wedded Husband, who will naturally be sporting ring to that effect

Just curious, how did they know it was his gobbledispook?

He does want to wear a ring. He has never worn any kind of ring before though. The day we bought it, it seemed ok. And after all, they had measured his finger but it has been loose ever since and his knuckles are very slim, so there wasn't much keeping it on IYSWIM. He just wasn't sure how tight it was supposed to be and of course, it varies with temperature.

Anyway, it's gone. Let's hope any replacement lasts a bit longer or this could get very expensive!!

It was engraved on the inside with our names and wedding date and we left those details with the resort.

Cheesy to have engraving I know but it saved our ring!

When the jeweller gets their prison warden type pile of ring sizes out and measures you, you just go with what they say. They told him that was his size, so hey, we believed them. Just one of those things. Not correct as it turns out but what can you do?!

Marriage, eh. All these mysterious nuptualish things I wot not of.

But rings aside, it's fab

i didnt know you got married beansprout!

congratulations xxx

hows baby?

If somebody's finger was an inbetweeny size they would give the bigger one, wouldn't they? So your finger wouldn't shrivel up and drop off with one which is too small (when you really would have trouble keeping a ring on )

MI, are you getting fishy?

Thanks np. Baby is fine - he was one last week!!! Yikes!! I'm back at work, part-time but he seems v settled with the childminder. How are you?

Fishy?

I'm not the marrying type, really.

MI, not meant your typing was a bit like cod's pmsl.

Blimey, I need talk. No, I meant... it should read

I would be gutted if I lost my wedding ring. It was my grandmother's and I wear my mother's wedding ring on my right hand. Dh's ring is a cheap one (solid gold, though I had given him for Christmas a few years ago. If he lost it I wouldn't mind about the actual ring, but would want him to buy a replacement pdq.

I went to a wedding once where the groom was reluctant to get married in the first place. At the reception he took his ring off and said it was because it interfered with his guitar playing. His bride silenced the whole party by shouting 'Bollocks does it, you bastard, you just want to take it off every time you do a gig so you can cop off!' which was the absolute truth. Classy.

I love my rings very, very much.
Dh, although a very sensitive and caring man, is not bothered by jewelery at all.
Although he did admit to feeling a bit 'naked' without it, the other day.

There are 'some ladies' for whom ring is very important.
For 'most' men, is is not as important.

If its that important to you, take him to the jewelers, gently, yourself !!!

Get him a replacement and superglue it on.

what was wrong with MI's typing? "wot not of" is perfectly good english if a bit shakspearean.

Beansprout, sorry to hear about this. My DH has just lost his ring too (what acareless lto of husbands we have) and I really hope he finds it.
Keeping quiet about it tho so as not to stress him too much...