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separating from partner

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kutu · 06/04/2011 21:08

hi everyone i am new to mums net so plz be kind - i am in a relationship which is on bad terms at the moment we argue constantly over silly things and i think it is affecting the kids as my son who is seven keeps getting in trouble at school and i feel that i have fallen out of love with my partner but he is refusing to move out because i think we need a break but he keeps involving the kids by saying to the kids do u want me to move out? the kids love their dad therefore they always say no but the arguments are getting worse i am worried of finances too as i own our home but my partner works so pays the morgage and uses that against me when i say we should separet
he says i will not be able to cope finacially if he goes but i am so unhappy and just want out of ths relationship i do not have any family members to talk about this. am i being unreasonable asking him to move out because he says he loves me but i dont feel the same we have a lot of debt too so i am not sure i will be able to cope finacially if he leaves as i have four kids please help me decide on what to do ? thank u

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cjel · 07/04/2011 10:47

Kutu, I don't know whether to advise you to seperate or not, but having seen other threads on similar subject I would advise you to get some proffessional advice. I mean on your position legally as to how to make him leave. If he really loves you digging his heals in doesn't sound as if he knows what to do either. of course kids want him to stay and seems a bit unfair of him to involve tham in choices like that. If you are really unhappy as well have you somewhere you could go to to discuss it - health visitor or citizens advice. It seems as though you have made your mind you need a break and so perhaps legal advice on how to acheive that may be your best bet. I think whether or not he thinks you could cope is irrelevent, I would hope you could discuss it with someone maybe try Drs. and see if it is relationship and not just life with four kids so that other things might help as well. Just read this back and it sounds like a load of drivel. Sorry..x

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