Sex feels numb

[amiheartless]

Its a tough subject I've namechanged.
When I have sex with my DP I feel numb
or at least I think i'm numb is it boredom perhaps?

tend to use same position mostly a few changes
he doesnt have the biggest *ahem not sure if thats it either

never had an O
I have to fake it
he touches me alot and we have sex alot
but last night and a few other times I just felt glazed over.
help please?
I know its nothing compared to issues on here but you are probs better placed on experience. (am 20)

didn't want to leave it unaswered,

has anything happened recently for you to have a change of feelings towards him?

You say you have never had an orgasm, do you mean with a partner or have you not given yourself one? I didn't have an orgasm until I'd had my DD at 25, despite being married from 18, orgasm is a learned response, it needs time and practice to get right and some women take longer than others - it needs an average of 20 minutes constant stimulation for most women.

Do you actually know what gives you sexual pleasure? I would invest in a vibrator and some lube and find out what makes you tick, sexually speaking, if you don't understand your body's reaction to sexual stimulus, you can hardly expect your partner to.

Penis size has little to do with orgasms btw.
Stop faking it, you don't have to do that, if he knows what a woman's orgasm feels like, he must know on some level and it's creating a barrier between you.
Are you having sex because he wants it, or do you actually get aroused and feel sexual desire?

Rule number one when it comes to enjoying sex is knowing what your own body likes and how it responds.

just wondering after a long relationship faking orgasms, how do you go about stopping doing that? It must be difficult. especially if he needs that noise to finish. What will happen, i wonder?

thanks for replies
sometimes he can pester a bit but other than that no
we don't have our own house we still have to sneak around like teens
maybe a factor
eidt: im 22 not 20

Have you ever really enjoyed sex with him? Or is it recently you've got less pleasure from it?

I'd recommend that you stop faking (perhaps not suddenly), but you'll never be able to improve your sex life if he thinks it's going fine already.

I'll try that
i just felt its polite to do so not to offend him

but to say to him 'that's REEEEEAAALLLLLYYYYYY good/nice/fantastic' whispered in his ear, for a lot of men will drive them a little wild so I believe.

if you're sneeking about as well, I should imagine that's not helping with things as you have to be quiet so basically can't 'let go'? are things the same when you have no one about and plenty of time?

at pretending for politeness' sake... sorry.

Sex is supposed to be mutually enjoyable, and if he's not touching you in the right ways or in the right places, touching you "a lot" isn't going to work. You need to guide him gently to what feels good, and that requires you knowing your body and having time & no fear of being discovered to explore together.

If you're sneaking about, there's obviously pressure, which isn't often conducive to good sex. If he pesters you when you're not feeling like it, it also isn't likely to result in good sex for you.

It may be that he's just not the right person for you, if you don't feel excited or turned on in the first place.