Well things are even less jolly than usual in the pie house.
DH is American, lives here. He is INCREDIBLY close to his grandparents, they raised him basically. His grandma is currently in hospital for what must be about the 10th time with Congestive Heart Failure, which she was first diagnosed with 7 years ago. In short she is in all likelyhood dying.
The baby is coming in 2 weeks. I told him that as soon as the baby is born I want him to go home for a couple of weeks to spend some time with his folks. I've spoken to my mum, and I can stay with her for a bit.
I really think that he should say his goodbyes, if you will.
He point blank refuses. He says that if he goes he won't be coming back as saying goodbye to his grandparents again will just be too hard. The next time he goes back it will be for good. Of course this hurts to hear, but I told him I think that he is cutting off his nose to spite his face, and that 10 years down the line he will regret not seeing his grandma again, and that of course he will come back, though of course it will be hard to leave them.
I don't know if I should push the point anymore though...if he is saying no, should I just leave it?
Has anyone ever regretted not seeing a loved one when they knew it might be the last time?
He is withdrawn and miserable. I feel totally useless, and racked with guilt that I'm having a baby, that he moved here for me, and crap for knowing that he really thinks that he wouldn't be able to leave his family there for his family here.