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Does anybody else feel like no matter what you do its never good enough ?

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positivesteps · 03/04/2011 21:29

Hi,

I just feel that no matter what I do my mother will always find something to pick at. Its got to the point where I don't even want to spend time with her or even see her.
Every time I do see her she moans or winges. She never has anything good to say - no praise for me just negative and criticising me or having a dig. It is so draining mentally. She gets jealous if I see my dad who she is divorced from, she expects things all the time and always complains Compares what money we spend on her or where we take her compared to say my dad or husbands mum or dad - its petty.

Went to meet her today with what I thought were some lovely gifts - card, big box of red wine, chocs and fancy flower in a pot and all she could say is you haven't wrapped them up. I was taking her for dinner too when I met her. Do you think its cheeky to say you haven't wrapped them? Why couldn't she just say thanks and be happy - ?

OP posts:
lookingfoxy · 03/04/2011 21:35

Some people are just like this, yes she is cheeky and ungrateful.
I got a cd and was over the moon with that (I said not to even bother with that), oh and my breakfast made for me Smile and we all went out for a lovely walk this evening.

It would matter if you had wrapped them in paper dipped in gold, there would still be 'something', tbh if my mum was like this, I don't know if I would make any effort at all, thankfully if pulled out a sticky sweety covered in fluff she would smile lol.

purplepidjin · 03/04/2011 21:35

What you said, apart from the Dad bit.

I respond by turning myself into a whiny teenager and telling her to stop nagging! It's the only way to let her know without causing a massive scene

She's had the temerity to fuck off to Paris this weekend so I haven't had to deal with it

jjgirl · 04/04/2011 10:10

i would have put the stuff back in the car and said oh well i shall take them home if you dont like them and then just got on with what we were doing.

i have put up with a mother like this for over 20 years of my adult life now so just tend to ignore it as you would with a child.

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