Please stop me feeling so angry

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Short story is H left last August to be with OW they now live together. (Hes done loads of crappy things over the last few months eg introduced DD to OW despite me saying no/is going abroad with his whole family on what would have been our wedding anniversary cyprus which is where we got married.)

Im so angry with him, every time I think of him/speak to him I feel such an over whelming rage. Please tell me I wont feel like this forever. Im crying as I type this, I dont even recognise the person Ive become. I hate feeling like this, I just want to feel normal and happy again.

Court battles don't have to be expensive (and can be paid for in installments) and imo are sometimes essential when one half of the ex partnership is controlling - it is essential to set and enforce boundaries, particularly around access and finances, and sometimes only legal clout can achieve that. Imo in some instances it is an essential expense.

Yes, change your contact number so he can't harass you (which is what he has done). You may be feeling powerless now but don't beat yourself up - he has ripped your life away from you and you can't expect yourself to have got the hang of the ropes overnight (ie how to deal with him effectively).

You can also change your mind btw - and you don't have to justify it, either.

Have you heard of the Freedom Programme? I would recommend it for clarifying your rights and learning how to protect yourself against controlling, manipulative behaviour (particularly when your heart is broken and your head is in a mess). xx

well said springy

OP - who is the person you trust most with this kind of stuff?

Could you ask them to act as an intermediary between you and this bullying bastard until you feel stronger?

You really shouldn't have to have any contact with someone who would treat you (the mother of this daughter he's pretending to care so much about) so appallingly.