Totally P++++ed off

[Carla]

Is it me Mumsnetters?

Had a row last night because D(ha)H didn't want to eat the ready-meal I'd bought.

Did his own thing (b.Beans, eggs, chips) and then I thought good - I can go to bed.

This morning he offered to take DD1 & DD2 swimming whist I went to Sainsbury's. Got back, no children. Swimming finishes at 12.45 and by 1600 no chidren. Turns out he's taken them to the local pub. D(!) comes back, asks the girls if they want lunch (??? + - which of course I gave them), then says he'll take them to the park. In the meantime, he's hit me in the back 'because I was in the way of the 'fridge' and told me to shut up (in front of the children) for saying that they shouldn't have Smarties because I said they'd had sweets today already.

Have already rung my mum in London & told her not to come up tomorrow .

What does anyone think??

Is this unusual? Does he usually take them out at the weekend? On one hand I'd be bloody furious but on the other if it's unusual and he's taken them off your hands for a change I'd have a rant on mumsnet for an hour or two, take a deep breath and give him a beer.

Whilst we work our every moment around the kids needs, men don't! My dh would do the same, take them swimming and then go to the pub as he's "done his bit" lunch usually consists of crisps and maltesers! Now if he's going to the club before lunch I sedn a sandwich(!) and ask that they eat that before rubbish - it's a compromise

The food thing REALLY annoys me although we are coming to some sort of understanding, my d(HA!)h says he isn't hungry and then has a sandwhich an hour later. I wouldn't mind if he reheated what I made but...

Did he hit you in the back hard? If he was really horrid to you ignore everything I'm saying but perhaps he is knackered and "thinks" he has done you a favour and you are not thankful enough! Like we don't look after them ALL the rest of the time.

rungagged,

Yes, it is unusual. It's almost if he's saying 'hell, I can take care of them, just watch me'. It's nothing like he's 'done his bit', he just wanted (and it's 6.35 now) to show me that he can manage the children without me.

The food thing makes me feel a bit better, cause at least he can't do it.

He didn't hit me hard on the back, but just makes me think how can he possibly think that way. After all, I've been in his way in the morning making tea but I never slapped him for it.

Thanks runragged

carla, my dh is not working at the moment, I work part time and am retraining so he is taking over the children gradually. Anyway "how hard can it be?" he thinks to himself, all she does is sit around having coffee with her cronies and playing with the children(!)" To date if he doesn't have his afternnon nap he is no use to anyone! HAHA not so easy as he thinks is it? ;o

Anyway, I expect dh is just tired and extra tired because he's had a drink and can't let you see that its affected him. Forget about it, maybe talk tomorrow if you want but its a good night on tv, just have some time together.