Smacking back

[Deliainthemaking]

there was a thread about smacking a while back, and today in a convo someone in the gym I overheard them saying they had got in a rgument with their mother and had both ended up slapping each other,

I was innerdly aghast and so was this womans friend but out loud saying she was wrong etc. thought nothing of it but then I questioned this view that is viewed across society.

Have you ever retaliated to your parents?

did you feel awful afterwards?

do you think it is wrong under any circumstances to hit your parents?

Um.... well. My Dad tended to get a bit heavy handed when he was REALLY riled. Only a handful of times, and he was very clumsy and flaily about it - almost childlike really.

Once when I was about 14 I was about to go on holiday with a friend and her parents, and a row broke out between me and Dad, and he approached me with his hand raised and I reflexively swung my handbag at him, purely in self-defence. It was full of makeup/hairspray etc, ready for holiday, so it weighed quite a bit.

It hit him upside the head, I took one look at his face and legged it round my friend's and on to Devon

Bless kate

my mum I was 11 and she (can't even remember why) was going hell forleather round my face and caught my newly pierced ear and it really hurt

it must have been like a reflex , before I knew it I lamped her on the forehead.

she went away quielty, was never spoken about which is wierd in my house, she never hit me again. I always felt ashamed.

should I have done do you think??

I'm not particularly proud of this but when I was 17 my mother slapped me on the face really hard (my parents were a bit slap happy but this was thirty years ago). i immediately slapped her back, actually gave her a minor black eye because my ring caught it . She never hit me again.

I know my OH said that his dad used to hit him when he was younger, but when he got to around late teenage his dad hit him, and he hit him back, and since then he has not done so, as his dad realised that the point had been reached where his son was going to only get bigger and stronger than him, so he couldnt force him to do things by overpowering him anymore.....

If someone hits you, you have the right to defend yourself. If that means hitting them back, then make it a good 'un.

I see no reason why you should allow someone to hit you. Not even a parent.

I never hit mine back but by god I wanted to. How DARE they hit me just because they were bigger than me and had the power. My sister once drew back her fist at our dad when he was looming.

No. When you hit someone, you do not have the right to not be hit back, imo. You don't enjoy some special protected status because you're the parent.

I wouldn't let some stranger walk up to me in the street and thump me, why the hell should I take it from someone who is supposed to love me, for crying out loud?

My parents used to physically punish me when I was younger. Back then it was the norm i guess and especially so in our culture. Anyway, I was about 15 and I remember I had my feet up watching TV whilst eating my dinner and my mum came in to nag me about something. I forget what. Because I was ignoring her, she took what was to hand and started smacking me on the arm with it. The item was a glass lucozade bottle.

Now by this time I was way bigger/stronger than my mother who is only 5ft0. I didn't really fancy picking glass out of my arm so I calmly put my plate down, caught her hand, twisted it behind her back, took the bottle off her, let her go then carried on eating my food.

That was the last time she ever tried to smack me. Think she realised I'd gotten a bit too big!

But in general I'd have to say no. As a sign of respect you should never ever hit your parents.

I don't have respect for people who hit me.

Yes I hit my Mum back when I was 18, nearly 19, after years of attacks and beatings.

My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner and harder. I am quite sure she would still be hitting me now if I hadn't stood up to her.

Anyone who attacks someone else basically because they are not getting their own way, which lets face it is the main reason that parents hit their kids especially teenagers, deserves a dig back, parent or not.

No it's not wrong to retaliate against your parents, as long as they aren't elderly and infirm.

My mother had me up against a wall when I was 15, screaming and slapping me. I slapped her back and knocked her down. I wasn't off the rails, and I didn't GO off the rails, but it taught her that actually, slapping hurts and she should think carefully before getting herself into a situation where someone will slap you because it's there only way to get away from you.

I know it's not really what you're asking about, but my dad didn't stop hitting me until I gave him a perfect right uppercut at the age of 16-17. I was quite stunned at myself - but not as stunned as he was

If my Mum ever hit me then yes I'd hit her back (well I probably wouldn't because I'd be so )

I was expecting different response tbh

actually looking back both my parents stop physical punishment when I lashed back.