feel a bit pushed away- bit long sorry

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i'm due my baby in just over a month and having terrible time sleeping, cant get comfortable at all or switch off my mind. anyway i usually cuddle right up to my OH and find this quite comforting and relaxing when i am lying awake worrying at night or suffering with my hip/leg/bum pain.... well i never thaught anything of it but when i got into bed the other night he said i'm to stop squashing him and let him get a peaceful nights sleep and even accused me of being smothering! he says he cant move around in bed without me latching on to him.
i really didnt realize it was that bad where he had to actually have a conversation about it with me, he does start work early in mornings and i always ask are you comfortable and he usually says yes but now i just feel so stupid and deflated.
i work 5 days a week, basically do everything in the house and have been dealing with a bit of family trouble lately and my only comfort lately has been the closeness me and oh share... like he made me feel loved and at ease, now i just feel so pushed away and sad.
might i just add that he is one of those sleepers that hogs all the bed, all the duvet and it is usually me suffering to accomodate him.

to be honest, i can see how annoying it would be, he is asleep, you wake up and are uncomfertable, you cuddle up to him, wake him up, he is uncomfy.
the fact you do everything aroung the house, and have family issues are seperate from this. and him hogging the bed is something you need to sort out. you let him hog, so he hogs. you cant let him carry on doing it, not say anything then compalin. when he hogs, shove him over, get another cover so you have one each if you are unhappy with it.
he cant be made responsible for your comfot, you have to sort that. when you get into bed ask him for a cuddle. he is awake, you are both content.

We have this in reverse - dh latches on to me like a limpet and I have to peel him off to get some space and coolness!

Try not to read too much into it.

I can't bear being latched on to when having a nice sleep. V annoying.

I can't bear being touched at all when I'm trying to sleep. I can't even sleep facing my partner, but have to face away, as he's such a "heat source" and I like to be cool. OP - people snap when they're trying to sleep. Set yourself up with a nice collection of pillows and give your partner some rest. He can give you hugs before bed.

I'm with G1nger

I'm also with Ginger - I loathe being 'held' when I am sleeping and feel restricted and smothered. We compromise by snuggling up just before we drop off then one of us turns away when we get to the really sleepy stage.

i hate being cuddled up to in bed, i get way too hot and uncomfortable

and being tired and not sleeping properly can cause someone to be snappy and irritable

I would sleep in the spare room if i were you

have you got one of those maternity pillows.
I know that's not really the issue here, but it might help you!

oh thanks for the responses here. well the thing is i am not actually after more than a comfy nights sleep myself, i hate being hot too so i know what u lot are saying, and yes lack of sleep makes people incredibly grouchy.
i think i may well just be thinking too deeply into it. the funny thing is its actually probably ME who should of said something to him, he has his leg over me, most the bed and i think i'm just getting a wee bit jealous of his ability to fall asleep within ten mins. i'm taking to sleeping on sofa because i do feel dreadful he has to get up so early and i may be interupting his much needed sleep. think i may just be worn out with this whole pregnancy lark as it is nearing the end. thanks for your opinions everyone, it helps me get a different perspective of things!