yesterday dh went to see his birthmum who lives about 25 miles away. He does this several times a year and usually spends about 8-10 hours out of the house inc travelling (about 1 hour e/w)
Yesterday dd decided she wanted to go with him - without actually saying "no" to her he tried to make up all kinds of excuses including "we'll be going out for a meal and you'll bump the cost up"!
Anyway moving on to today, dd has a riding lesson most Saturdays and dh hasnt taken her in about 12-18 months. This usually takes up to 2 hours with travelling. She often asks him but he once again is armed with many excuses his favourite being "im usually at work on a Saturday" which is true for 2 weeks out of every 4, so he's at home as much as he's at work IYSWIM. He needed to go out this morning to fetch something so I encouraged him to go about 10am so he could get back to take dd to her lesson which he did promise to do this week. Now he's decided he's not doing it and left the house at 10.30 which means I will be late taking dd to her lesson. To say dd is hurt is an understatement. I tell him he cannot mess the children about and wish he put the same effort into family things as he does other stuff but he really cant be bothered
Thanks for listening I feel much better now.